Our world is not divided into good and bad. How do we treat him, so he will. Any event, we estimate using our thinking. The reality is that in what we believe. But many people are confused about the relationship. Now many families thanks to breaks of parents learning disability. They taught their children for some own ideals. But often, this is not right.
Now the marriage there is a lot of all sorts of myths. And often people live on the wrong dysfunctional settings. For example, someone might believe in a happy family. Where there is no need to work on themselves, their relationships. But this has never been, and never will. Ideal for something in this world no. We create the ideal of his hard work. In marriage, you need to adjust to the other person. If someone does not want to do that. Then it is not a family, and relationships, and the game with only one goal.
Myth 1. If the marriage is happy, it is not necessary to work on a relationship
All of these concepts come from childhood. Children are too open to the world and all the information from the outside, they take for granted. That is, do not try to comprehend something. Children with childhood used to read fairy tales, and then as an adult watching a melodrama with a happy ending. Where the characters love each other just because they are.
And no one is trying to change something in their lives. However, an adult should understand that he lives is not a fairy tale. Therefore, you must look at things realistically. Stamp in the passport - it's just legitimizing relations. This is not the cement that tightly bind you to each other. After marriage, men still remain free, and nothing changes. Therefore, you need to work on relationships. Otherwise they simply will not.
Myth 2. Partner should feel that it is necessary to half
Many women find that a partner should feel that he wants. The same goes for men. That is, it is not necessary to express their desires. If a person really loves, he is sure to realize that it is necessary to half. But this is the wrong approach. When a person does not do what is expected of him, he is considered the inattentive towards themselves. Doing some hints, resent, rather than just to express their own thoughts. It is worth noting that in real life it happens very rarely.
Of course, if the partners really love each other, they are subtly feel all the desires and mood of the opposite person. But wonders never will. And they are not worth waiting for. Even if a person has intuition, he can not read minds. And it must be considered. Not a single person can not have supernormal abilities. Therefore, it is necessary always to speak openly about their own desires. But do it gently.
Those relationships where the partners talk about all the feelings and desires openly, more resource. In them there is a harmony. And the most important thing.
If you feel you are doing wrong. Do not worry. Never too late to change and start afresh. Catch up is always possible. Especially if there is such a desire.
