Children are able to bring to a white heat, and sometimes maddening not his obedience and indifference.
Every mother will sooner or later breaks down to cry. When a light, and when such that neighbors hear.
If after you yell at a child you feel guilty, then stop and think. Why is this happening?
Most likely from the fact that you understand that the child is still small enough to understand, but you have here, and could not resist. To smooth the guilt you start to indulge something toddler to relieve their inner experiences.
So you do not need to do. Let me explain why.
The child does not understand you. Five minutes ago, you shouted, and now affectionate. He kind of took your anger and mercy, too, and in my head porridge ...
The child will not be asking you about your condition, it is to trust your feelings.
If you still have broken the cry, do not blame yourself, accept the fact that you are a living person, and sometimes it is not possible to hold back! You can not always be smiling and good. This is also not the most positive example. The child needs to see the whole range of emotions.
Try to talk with your child.
do not apologize
And say: baby, you have behaved very badly, did not listen to me, scared me, ran away from me, he took without asking any thing (well you get the idea) so I do not hold back emotions and shouted at you.
Please try to continue to do / not to do so, my mother is very upset.
Need to speak in a firm voice, without notes of apology and self-pity, without syusyukany.
Even the youngest children feel intonation. And it is serious, austere tone is much stronger than the screams.
Firstly - and this may not work, and the child can simply forget this conversation. But your state of mind will be much better, I promise you.
Plus the child will not be in the head of cereal and a feeling that here I was first criticized and then give a piece of candy. Such children grow moody, unpredictable and able to be manipulated by means of this technique, you showed him.
These teens often then throw something from the series: do tattoos / are found with a bad company / smoke (to bring you) you yelling, get out of yourself, then you will be ashamed, and now they have a weapon in their hands - your weakness. This is the simplest example. But believe me, that such behavior, "I shout, and then regret," you grow small manipulators.
Therefore - talk with the children and they will learn to listen and listen.
A shouting you only alienate them and learn how to use the weaknesses of people.
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