You do not think about the fact that how you behave with your child, then reflected in his behavior. There are no bad children, there are bad adults! His rudeness, convictions, negatives, we generate a child's rebellion, aggression, lack of understanding.
Here are the 20 phrases that you should use to communicate with your child, if you do not want to hurt his psyche, to grow a full personality, kind and good man. Simply replace your usual rudeness to a balanced treatment, and you will see results!
1. "What you have to remember?"
Instead of: "Be careful!"
Children are very often simply ignore our words, especially if we are trying to warn them of problems. Try to convey security information in a more gentle manner, reminding the child that he has to be careful in other words.
2. "Please, speak calmly."
Instead of: "Stop shouting!" "Calm down!"
Children - is a constant noise and din. But do not panic, trying to calm them stiff criticism. Try not to infringe upon the thrust of the child, for example, a noisy musical instruments or singing. Encourage your child to be a little quieter or "rip" on the street.
3. "You want to do it yourself or you need my help?"
Instead, "quickly move the toys!" "Now get dressed!"
The child - a constant confrontation. If he is told what to do, he is sure to do just as you want it, not you. Therefore give him the right choice.
4. "Do you understand what caused your error?"
Instead of "could have done better!" "Shame!"
Rather than blame the child made to try to convey to him the result of his action can bring unwanted results.
5. "You are welcome…!"
Instead of: "Do not", "Stop!"
Instead of pointing the child to do what he should not do, politely ask him what you want. As often as possible contact with the word of a child, "please."
6. "Today we need to go a little faster!"
Instead of: "Come quickly!" "Because of you, we'll be late!" "Hurry!"
If you are somewhere in a hurry, try to do all this rush of interest to your child.
7. "Come along now, or in 10 minutes?"
Instead: "It's time", "Come quickly to go home!"
Do not try to force a child to do something, give him a choice, and you'll see how he does what you want!
8. "We need to make this toy on the list of gifts for your birthday!"
Instead of: "I do not buy anything," "I have no money on your whim!"
We are afraid to spoil the child, so begin to hide behind such phrases. After all, in fact, we can and buy this little car or a doll. Do not be rude child, and instead give him waiting.
9. "A little calm down, and then ask for!"
Instead of: "Stop whining!"
When the naughty child's request to answer rudeness, it is unlikely that you will reassure your child. Be calm, speak balanced tone, and the child will calm down too.
10. "Please respect others and yourself!"
Instead of: "Be good / good boy / girl!"
Be specific in your phrases to communicate to the child are their desires, and not just superficial request.
11. "Play as a team!"
Instead of: "No one will play with you, if you behave this way!"
Communicated to the child that he is a good leader, but it is necessary to listen to the children, with whom he plays.
12. "Cry, I feel for you!"
Instead of: "Stop bawling!" "Quickly calm down!"
No need to put pressure on the child. And give him the opportunity to pour out their emotions, rather than keep the negative in itself.
13. "How do you take care of yourself?"
Instead of: "Do as I say, and will be all right!"
Children should be able to take care of themselves, to experience emotions honestly, thus they are less get into trouble, and increases their self-esteem.
14. "I'll wait until you're done!"
Instead of: "Let me do it quickly!"
Adults are accustomed to in a hurry. But in doing so we do not give our children to become self-reliant. Calm down, sit down, and wait until the baby will do everything himself.
15. "Remember, I love you, no matter what!"
Instead: "For your act, I will not kiss you!" "When are you behaving like this, one does not love you!"
Our love for children does not depend on their behavior, actions and words. It is better to convey to the child that we should not behave this way, the next time to give than to caress her baby.
16. "I'm worried about you because ..."
Instead of: "You're still a little!" "Do not you dare do that!"
The kid needs to know that you can not just forbid him to do something, but because they are worried and afraid of losing it.
17. "Do it yourself!"
Instead of: "I do not care!"
Allow the child to be independent, but do not show him that you do not care, even if it is in fact so.
18. "I believe in you!"
Instead of: "I'll do it myself!" "Why do I have to do it instead of you?"
Motivate your child, keep and be patient as to its beginnings.
19. "How do you feel?"
Instead of: "Now take it easy!"
An important element of proper education - allow your child to share their emotions and experiences.
20. "Everything will be fine!"
Instead of: "Well, everything, now do not get anything," "I knew that you did not come!"
The child is important to know what you believe and support him in spite of everything!
