There is a type of people who are constantly humiliated, insulted and bring people to the scandal. They behave inappropriately, showing psychopathy and "radiating" negative. This destructive people!
How can people recognize the destructive?
Here are 13 diversions with which these people can humiliate others.
1.Gazlayting
This manipulation technique can be described by such phrases: "Are you crazy?", "That did not happen!", "You thought." Reception distorts the sense of your reality, undermines your confidence in yourself, raises doubts as to your right. As a result, you get up to the side of the man.
It is important to prevent such manipulation. You can share with others or to record everything that happens in the diary. So you can drag yourself away from the distorted reality and see the situation from the outside.
2.Bessmyslennye talk
These people are just talking incessantly about any nonsense. In the end, they just clutter up your brain with unnecessary information. You enter into the discussion, but the problem is that to argue with such a person, you get the bucket of mud with insults and humiliations.
It is not necessary to feed a psychopath, say nothing, do not give ground for conversation.
Topics 3.Smena to avoid responsibility
When it comes to responsibility, these people are trying to translate the conversation for you.
Try to insist on using the method of "the jammed plate." If not, it is better to stop talking.
4.Ugrozy
They can be as hidden and overt. When destructive people who believe that a whole world owe them, are beginning to realize that belief in it want to undermine, they start rattling threats interlocutor.
If you hear the threats, hints at them or mandative tone in your address, you should know, this is the negative person. Try to take the threat seriously, and better fix them and let them know where to apply.
5.Oskorbleniya
Destructive people are used to inflate out of molehills. They believe that in any situation they are right and only one who says something against deliberately wants to harm them. Therefore, they sometimes do not even think about his words, and can pour insults at him.
You can simply do not react to all this dirt and try to convey to the abuser that he did not "navel of the world" and should stop to behave in this way.
6.Dressirovka
People tend to just destroy your past. They expressed humiliating about it, trying to adjust you to the fact that it was all bad, though you had a good time. By the wayside leaving friends, holidays, socializing with friends.
Do not give in to training, do not close yourself in, try to communicate with people who will respect you, your behavior, your past.
7.Manipulyatsiya love
These people are trying to bribe a man a romantic date and gifts to lure their love. They often insulting to say about their former passion, but with time and you will be treated similarly.
Be careful, if the other behaves aggressively, and with you too "corny" - a good sign. Just do not take your time, look at the man before tying him serious relationship.
8.Triangulyatsiya
The introduction of the communication of the third person who will share the views of "the destroyer." These may be colleagues, ex-partners, relatives. As a result, you begin to think: "If it (he) agrees with him, then he's right!" By the way, so can form a love triangle in which the "victim" feels powerless and unhappy. Destructive people are happy to tell you the bad things that are said about you behind your back, while you yourself also watered the dirt until you can not hear.
Probably should also behave in a similar way. Just look for the person with whom you can share experiences and that it will support your point of view.
Borders 9.Proverka and tactics of the vacuum cleaner
Destructive people will definitely check your past. Very often the "victim" of such people in the future into the hands of even more brutal natures. And the tactics they use a vacuum cleaner, just "sucking" you in their captivity sweet words and promises. They repent of their cruelty, they swear that become softer, and when you start to believe you are waiting for a new blow with even greater ferocity.
Do not believe him, nothing will change!
10.Agressivnye podkoly and jokes
Telling you shit, these people argue that just joking. In this case, your response in the form of anger or comments, will be assessed by them, if you do not have a sense of humor. They just play with you as prey.
It is important to make it clear to the offender that you do not like this treatment with you.
11.Sarkazm and patronizing
People love to belittle others, and this is their strength. They like to use sarcasm, while if their address sounds something like this, they begin hysterical. They also always communicate with others in a patronizing tone, making it clear who is the "owner". So they manipulate their victims.
Do not keep silent, learn to suppress such an attitude towards yourself.
12.Kontrol around
Destructive people are used to control any other ways available to them. They will control you in finance, dealing with people, emotions. The more they have power over you, the more you will trust yourself.
Try to regain control of himself and is better not to communicate with such people.
13.Pristyzhenie
One of the favorite phrases of destructive people: "Shame on you!". This is another method of manipulating human beings - shaming. In this way, these people consume in your self-esteem, thereby enhancing their self-esteem. If, for example, you have experienced childhood abuse, destructive people will inspire you that you are to blame, thereby reopen your wounds, settled in you a feeling of guilt and nullity.
If you suspect that you communicate it is a destructive person, try to hide it from their vulnerabilities, so as not to hurt yourself in the future.
