Your kid, who only recently learned to walk, is now responsible for every hysterical ban bites you, beats, and tries in a fit of anger to defeat the apartment? Do not worry, this is another step on the road to adulthood. How to help your child is easier to go through it and themselves to survive in this difficult time?
Crisis 3 years in psychology called "protivozavisimostyu" child clamoring independence and protests against parental care and guardianship. And "no" and "I do not allow" reacts violently hysteria and aggression.
Do not forbid emotions. Do not scold the child for emotions, explain that experiencing emotions - this is normal. What mad and angry, when something does not work or can not achieve the desired - that's okay too. The child is still too young to control their emotions, in time to deal with them and express them correctly. So he does what he can, because of their age: to hit, bite, pinch, push.
Define clear boundaries. Watch as often getting angry, irritable and, accordingly, all starts to beat and bite? A child aged 2-3 years is very actively learns, at this age the interest is much stronger feelings of fear, which is why most of the child tantrums and aggression reacts on bans. It is important to clearly define the boundaries of what is permitted, if it is "no", then none of the adults who konraktiruyut with the child, it is not allowed.
And if the mother, for example, does not allow to wash their hands in the toilet and the Pope permits, the child does not understand what is happening, and will prove hysterical mother their legitimate right to do so. You will, in time, will notice that the child is calmer when there is a limits himself so much easier to grow and explore the world, even though he initially very angry. You need to teach a child to adapt to this world, to teach him the ability to stay angry, anger, and sadness from the fact that not everyone can.
Allow me to express anger.We have found that the emotion of anger itself is quite normal, but you need to teach your child the right to throw out their anger, so that when it does not hurt the surrounding. Encourage your child to an alternative, instead of kicking and biting, even stamped his feet, waving his hands, growling or screaming, let him throw that beats. For the manifestation of anger and rage should not be punished, because you - a mirror for your child with you, it reads the patterns of behavior in a given situation, and carries them on. Therefore, watch your words and actions, before demanding such from your baby.
Do not allow yourself to beat and bite. Prodemonstripuyte child its borders: "It hurts me! I do not allow myself to bite! "And be sure to intercept and warn stroke. Do it calmly and confidently that does not cause the child pain, do not show him that you are in pain, pinching or biting back. Children still do not quite understand what pain is. You can help, for example, when the kid fell and cry, progovorivat: "You fell, hit, hurt you." Then the child through their own experience will understand how it is when hurt.
Love unconditionally.Regardless of what you forbid your child, you are for him - a reliable fortress grounding point so it should always feel that you comfortably and safely, that his love for what he there is. The child is not bad by the fact that someone hit or bite, or in a fit of anger, chose a toy. He did a bad thing, a bad thing, not a child. Never forget that!
Also be sure to ask about any harmful phrases every day you say to your child
