In the bustle of daily activities, work, household chores have virtually no time for spiritual conversations with their children. And do not be angry, and then wonder why, when children grow up, we can not find common language with them. To avoid a gap between parents and children make it a rule not to lose the thread of communication, and it will help keep the 4 simple questions that you need to ask your child every day.
Research scientists say that today's parents are paying only 12 minutes by communication with children, with most of that time is spent on negative emotions towards the child: Reading morality, comments, instructions and disputes. What remains on friendly chat trust? In the best case - 4 minutes a day... sad statistics, is not it ...
American writer, a popular blogger and working mom Jamie Harrington invented as possible not to lose contact with the child, even if you work hard and svobonogo time for dialogue is not enough - setting 4 daily "open" matter. Which means "open" - those that can not be answered with "yes" or "no"
"I have less and less time that I can devote to my daughter. But even being very busy, I allocate 15 minutes to talk heart to heart every night. I believe that, so I'm like, "leave the door open", so that if necessary, the daughter could share with me what is really important to her. Do not think that every time I get a detailed answer, daughter often limited to one or two words, but it also happens that we come to the discussion of important for her order. I ask these questions every day and listen carefully. I want to know that my daughter is sure - I'm next " - Jamie Harrington.
4 questions that you need to ask your child every day
1. What's up?
The meaning of the question "how was your day". As a rule, many children, especially teenagers, can answer unequivocally - "normal". If so, do not try to settle and pull ticks information. One can say that "If you do not want, do not tell, but I'm very interested in what happens in your life that you're interested in, and what bothers. And my day was thus... "Over time, even a vicious child will also want to share with you. But if a child answers "bad" or "sucks" - here you can try to ask leading questions, if the child wants, he will definitely share with you their experiences, and if not - do not bother.
2. How are your friends?
It would be nice to know the names of the friends of your son or daughter. Then you can ask specific questions, calling friends by name. Remember, friends and everything that goes with them, plays an important role for each child. And if the parents are interested in the affairs of friends - it's a child to you and makes the conversation more open and trusting.
3. What interesting things happened during the day?
Allow the child to escape from the experiences on assessments, monitoring and other school stress. Let him think about the good, the positive, that he is interested in and brings positive emotions. Perhaps he will tell you that the draw today, which took off for good photo selfie than shared on blogs his idol, and so on.
4. What do you need help?
Asking for help is always very difficult, and in adolescence - especially. Take the first step, ask the child first, what exactly you can help. Let it will even help to clean his room, do not take this stuff, because a child is not a small thing. And then - you can be sure that over time, helping a child now, even in small ways to apply it to you for help in more serious situations in life and willing to come to your aid if it need.
Important:
Talking with your child, do not take it formally, do not think at this point about their own problems, tune in to a positive, smile, be in a calm state of mind.
Postpone any business on then, any business can wait - the case and will always trouble, and your child's childhood fly very fast. Let these few minutes with you and the child will be intimate - do not ask questions, shouting them from the kitchen, cooking dinner, doing or completing everyday affairs.
Children are very well feel your mood and emotions subtly capture. If the child will understand what you are asking questions just for show, not because they are really interested in his life, he will not be honest with you.
Stay close to the child, take him by the hand, or a plant on his lap, if he is still small, priobnimite - physical contact is very important for both you and your baby.
Good and good luck to you and your children.
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