We all have such friends, who are accustomed to complain about everything. They tell us about their failures in monetary terms, in school, at work, in love, in life in general. On the one hand, who, if not a close person to talk about their difficult life situations and experiences to share? But psychologists are advised not to simply turn a deaf ear all the words "the complainants", but also, if possible, as little as possible to communicate with these people.
Let's understand the what damage can cause a person is constantly hearing complaints interlocutor.
Sometimes people who constantly complain about everything, able to make a big deal to enormous proportions. And even some minor scrapes them poured into something globally horrible! Complaints of people hear the universe, and perceives them as desire. human thoughts are material, and as a result "the complainant" attracts more problems. Now, you know how it is. In humans, some minor trouble with finances, he began to complain to others on this, and the universe is sending even more problems. The type of person to understand what is really difficult situation, and that we must somehow move to solve it!
Therefore, their problems are not advised to go in cycles, even if they are in fact very serious. Much more productively to think to solve these difficulties and their problems than constantly complain that everything is bad. Absolutely to any difficulties should be treated with a positive. It's life lessons, this is indicated by us the Universe, revealing our weaknesses. That is why, tomorrow does not become worse, you need to solve the problems of today.
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And what impact other people's complaints about the man?
A person who has a problem can not keep everything in himself, he wants to throw it all that little bit easier. But also together with the complaints he pours negative energy. And if we listen to it all, the port is its energy. Remember how you feel when you talked to the "complainer" - a feeling of emptiness, weakness, decreased performance. It turns out that "the appellant" after all threw at him, got a good recharge his life force.
And sometimes the "complainers" very successfully manipulate people. For example, imagine you are all well at work, and then you meet an acquaintance who tells about their financial difficulties with his superiors about the problems, etc. Subconsciously you will begin to feel guilt. Perhaps, besides the fact that you will listen to complaints, you may want to help the man, and often even to the detriment of himself!
Another "complainants" in all seeing the negative, pessimistic, and even able to install the other party for certain vital moments. For example, "All Men Are goats", "Money - it's evil," etc. They can customize the interlocutor even against another person. That's how "whiners" and "complainers" can ruin our lives!
What can you do with this situation?
If the people that you are constantly complaining about it some foreign friends, colleagues, neighbors, then just need to cease all communication with them. Well, what to do if the "complainants" are the people your relatives and best friends?
Try to make your communication with them more "environmentally friendly". Stop talking to those topics, which may cause your interlocutor negative. And tell people more positive setting. They will: "I have so many problems at work," and you tell them, "All will be adjusted", "Everything will be fine," etc. At first, people most just begin to perceive everything with bayonets, then get used to your reaction to this, and you will no longer be used as "Free ears". Just do not argue and do not prove anything "whiners", because, you know, it could have a negative impact on your family or friendly relations!
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