Children process is long and complex enough. He takes his parents all the energy and strength. I am not talking about parents who, due to work commitments, forced to transfer full responsibility for education to grandparents. Article for those parents who educate their children themselves. Although most of those grandparents and information will also be useful.
As it is sometimes sad that your child is the education that you put all of himself, eventually it begins to behave as he pleases, nobody listens and does everything only in its own way. And sometimes parents are beginning to resort to all sorts of methods, somehow trying to influence the baby, but would be the result. This, of course, is not entirely correct. In particular, many parents behave incorrectly when the baby starts to cry.
What to do with hysterical child faces any parent, sometimes it seems like it will never end, and I want to so something aptly say to his son, to the right abruptly ceased to roar and became obedient child. It does not happen, unfortunately. And indeed, according to psychologists, when crying baby can not accept incoming information it adequately and to draw conclusions. So first of all need to calm the baby, and then to conduct educational talks.
In general, it is worth understanding that weeping, child or adult, it is a way to get rid of negative energy. Therefore, Forbid him not to cry, even if it's for a reason. It just means that the body is so releases negative emotions.
Here are the phrases that you can not tell the child when it cries.
Do not cry, do you like a girl / roar!
Here it is clear the word "roar" is used, and for boys and girls, and the word "girl" only for boys. This phrase you its like trying to humiliate her child. You know that the man who forbade a child to cry, are not strong, but psychologically unstable? Since childhood instill in children that cry - it's bad, negative energy, respectively, is accumulated every day of the year, without being able to go outside. Hence mental problems.
Do not cease to cry - let's go home!
Kids love to walk, run, jump on the street. And, of course, on the street happen any incidents from falling to a misunderstanding of the child and parent in the store. Starts crying and the parent threatening the child's return home. Of course, the baby home do not want to go, he stops crying, but remains inside the volcano. And what happens then such volcanoes, known by the first paragraph of this article.
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Do not cry, and then the children will laugh at you!
Once again, a phrase you call your child to suppress the emotions within him, because he begins to think that crying - it's embarrassing.
Do not cry because of this stuff!
What is this little thing, and why did you decide that it is generally insignificant for the child? It is we, the adults, are not used by every trivia breed nurse and have kids it's different. The key word is "kids", they are small, around them more and more, including even the trifling situation seems to them a global!
Do not cry, you're an adult!
And this phrase, you just show your child that adults generally do not need to cry. And if it happens that tears rolled down from your eyes, wait on the baby's accusations and indifference.
It is clear that the ban should not be crying baby. But what to do then, if you still not done without tears?
1.Dayte baby cry. If the baby tantrum - you can spend it in another room, so that he cried.
2. Once the baby has calmed down, talk to him to find out the cause of his tears. Be sure to listen to all that tells you the baby.
3.Ask solutions to the problem.
As you can see, nothing complicated! The most important thing is that the kid knew that crying - it is quite normal, and sometimes, when life is something very unpleasant - it is even necessary!
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