Ukrainian actress, singer hit "Kolya Je ti", by example spoke about how well, in her opinion, to raise the child to become successful and open to the world. Singer brings 15-year-old son Yaroslav, so certainly knows all the subtleties of communication with modern teenager.
Especially for our site Lilu was six points, which should follow in order to always be in contact with your child and be his close friend.
Teenagers need a priori always love and as often as it is possible for them to repeat it. This is a complex psychological age of formation of self and self-acceptance. Parents must surround the unconditional love and adolescents should feel it. Do not be afraid to repeat the teenager in any situation that you love him, even if it's a boy, not a girl.
I often ask teens parenting secrets - and I say that do not need to bring them up, you need to educate yourself. Today's children and all of the current generation absorbs like a sponge. Parents should educate themselves it, and the children they are taking example and copy the life, actions and habits. It is important that they are taken from their parents the best.
I think one of the important factors - teach a teenager to plan your budget. Many fall into the adult world and does not know how to plan and spend your budget, they like to beg for money from their parents instead think about where they would earn if you want more, or -as allocate a budget that gives parents all need to be enough for month. It would be nice to such a subject was at school, but at school do not teach, it is the responsibility of parents.
Another important point in the upbringing of the teenager - socialization. Now many people stuck in their gadgets, and not want to live. Communication comes to naught. But, unfortunately, or fortunately, in order to succeed in life, you need to have good communication skills and quickly integrate into society, to be able to win the interlocutor. Again, this is not taught in school, so parents must be responsible job - to teach child, help him and direct the right way - like speeding social inclusion in the new society. As it will make parents - all individually, but definitely worth it to pay attention.
Often Teenagers see a perfect picture of the world, they feel that they graduate, will come into adulthood and all of them will develop according to plan, it will be "chocolate" and they will all be leaders. At least, so thinks my son. But in life it is often not the case, as we have come up with themselves. You need to show your child the possibility of life, so that he felt might be good if you put effort and achieve success, as well as show the opposite direction - as it may be, if you swim with the flow and do not put stress on the education, self-development and to achieve what you want would. This contrast and parents must show the child that he himself chose, which way he should go. Impose modern children nothing is impossible.
And the most important thing - know their children, and we find them we can when spend with them the maximum amount of time. But, for example, it is very difficult to find time to communicate properly in my busy schedule. I'm trying to introduce the tradition of dinner together or jointly held by the weekend, but in fact we get to communicate when we travel together. My son, like me, loves to travel. I maximally take it with you, wherever this is possible.
In these trips possible to accidentally catch the important topics, so it's important to look for an interesting topic, and your child is not he It must be arranged, and parents will be wiser if adjust to the interests of the child and will spend time as It is interesting to him. He will thank you and you will respond not only response open communication, but sincerity. It is in these moments is possible to lay the important grain to raise a teenager.
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