The world right now is such that you want to or not, but the woman must be strong. Many mothers have to bring up the future of men without a father, and among women: grandmother, aunt. As in this situation to bring the man?
Do not forget about gender differences, even from birth. In the first year of life, particular differences between boys and girls there. And so, and others need your care, kindness, proper care and a balanced diet. Unfortunately, in this period dismissive of life and education of his boy. It is believed that the baby mama is now longer necessary in this age of the boy did not understand anything and teach him nothing. Even the mother is very jealous of his new position and criticize any attempts to help her husband with the child.
In fact, the man has a lot to give to his son, even in such a small age: swimming, walking outdoors and so actually. And for 2 - 3 months of the baby perfectly distinguishes the timbre of male and female voices. And after a while the subconscious records feature of the behavior of men and women in the family. What does it mean dad child's mind? This standard of masculinity, protection, support, head of the family! Mom - tenderness, warmth, comfort and emotional comfort.
Already since 1 year and up to about 3 years, your youngster can begin to show its character cries or tantrums. At this age, children experience intense emotional swings in mood.
According to psychologists, this is the age of the child, the basic character traits. Such as perseverance and dedication. And parents need to just be patient and not to deprive the boy's love and affection. Feel free to show your kid its affection. After all, when he had them in abundance can get, but as a child? Try not to indulge the whims and exert their parental authority. But if the son normally generates their requests and desires, go forward. Turning to his son, try to use words such as "son", "athlete", "my boy." Avoid talking to the son too sugary treatment.
Allow son to explore the world, do not get ahead of ourselves and not hysterics over the slightest bumps or cut. If your baby says "myself", give an opportunity to him to do it! And if he makes a mistake, it will be examined and discussed, for whatever reason it did not work. It was in preschool boy yearning for his father's attention increases. We must not miss the opportunity to give a child a faithful life guidance and show the correct male model of behavior. The first one has to do it - my father. And the little boy will be based not only on the advice received.
Try always to children (it does not matter, son or daughter) to show by example. Because children always take a sample model of parental behavior. If frequent scandals and oppression, and the children will also behave in the family or with others in your family.
It would be desirable to focus on the adopted in the Company's opinion that "men do not cry." To forbid the boy to cry even from childhood psychologically harmful. Because boys are often more sensitive, emotional and vulnerable than girls. In addition, men are less adaptable, that is worse adapt to new people and situations.
Suppressed emotions lead to stress. And if the boy constantly suppress your emotions, this leads to the fact that he subsequently will not be able to build a normal relationship of trust, becomes a "cold heart". Growing up in such circumstances, the boy would be difficult to express the feeling of love and someone needs that lead to difficulties in their personal lives.
After all, being a man, it does not mean to be rude and insensitive. This means - to be strong, indulgent towards the weak, be responsible for them. The strength and the ability to express their feelings - are not mutually exclusive concepts. And the strength and severity - does not the same thing!
It is not necessary to prohibit the child to cry. Because the tears - it is a natural physiological discharge. They help to cope with stress. Unless of course, it is not hysteria. Mom obliged to regret and to support his son. Since it is associated in the child's world, as a model of warmth and peace. His father might react to his son more restrained tears if tears are associated with physical pain - cuts, bruises. But, at the same time, do not deny the son of the consolation. Instead of "men do not cry" let the installation, that "men act." Teach boys to endure pain, to analyze your mistakes and solve them to find ways to achieve the desired.
Mum should try to show his son that women are weak and they need help. You get out? The child wanted to help? Give him the opportunity. You go to the store with bags? Sonny decided to help bear some of the bags? Gave him a small package (based on the age of the child). Let bears tries. Be sure not to forget to praise him for his help. And asks if he will help and another time.
Another aspect of how to bring up the boy a man - this sport. It has long been observed that people who have achieved victories in the sport, much more have acquired in life. Initially, start to engage with his young son together. Make mandatory the daily performance of certain physical activities. And then, when it is old enough, you can put him in some sports section. There, he can not only develop physically, but also look at other kids his age and more objectively assess their own abilities.
As they get older the boy's father's influence in the life of the child increases. Son begins to experience beyond the limits. And here it is necessary to clearly define the boundaries. The child should always be a daily routine, home and school responsibilities, communication standards with adults and peers.
Bound by the rules is the fact that their violation leads to the punishment. Without penalty to raise the boy properly is almost impossible. The penalty, of course, should not be a physical and symbolic. But then everything will depend on the authority of parents.
Very important is the fact that the boy entered adolescence with a clear understanding of what should be the punishment for the violation and when told what to do, what to do! Rules may not be violated. This, as well as a good relationship with his father, will make growing up easier.
Just in adolescence should be paid great attention to communication with peers and adults generations of men: grandfather, uncle. Provide maximum flexibility in this matter. Respect his wishes. But at the same time, do not forget about the limitations.
Maturity and freedom implies responsibility. Learn responsibility for their actions match its desires with reality, to see the consequences of their actions - that is the goal of education at this age.
The child has to 15 years should be defined in a lifetime. Whom he wants to be, what profession to master. Uncertainty means no purpose in life. This adversely affects the development of personality boy.
Puberty is one of the most difficult in the life of a teenager. In boys, it passes more heavily than girls. Now his nervous system does not have time for physical development. Boys become more closed, nervous, touchy. Sometimes it may complain of lack of sleep, or vice versa constant drowsiness. Thoughts and actions of a teenager still childlike. Growing only completed by the age of 20 - 22. Do not "throw" him alone to solve their problems. Strongly supports, convince her son that you have it in any case, support and help to solve their problems. Let him be sure of your love and support.
You may be surprised, but the birth of a boy is experiencing sensations with sexual undertones. Such emotions he gets when sucks mother's breast, when he affectionately tickling. As psychologists say that if the boy's parents early and begin to teach strictly to the body's health, then later he may develop doubts. Show that his body should not be ashamed, it must be love.
By the year 6 - 7, the boy begins to take an interest in matters of sex and differences in body structure between boys and girls do not hesitate to answer his questions. Explained quite simply and without terminology. And who in the family (mom or dad) will tell it does not matter.
When your son goes to another level of development of its intimate, you'll know about it immediately. Son stop to let you (the mother) into the bathroom while bathing. Many mothers are very offended by it, explaining that "I love you from the cradle to see what's new out there I can find." It is not necessary to insist on its assistance in bathing. It can safely do and father.
Father and mother need to understand the changes taking place in the body of the child and give him the opportunity to be alone. All the words and actions of the mother is already perceived in a different way. The boy, however, emotionally detached from her. The father is seen as another man in the house. The world is changing your son and you must understand it. Relationships between parents now also perceived somewhat differently. The fact that the child sees better understood, rather than talk about it. Accordingly, try to show his son the positive aspects of your relationship: kisses (to the extent reasonable, of course), hugging, mutual assistance and respect for each other. It is this pattern of behavior your son will transfer to his family.
Feel free to discuss the issue with your teen contraceptive. Who would take such a role (mother or father) does not matter. Rather, the son himself will choose who to trust in this matter. Insist on their help is not necessary. Most often, a teenager can trust his mother. Since emotional connection with her stronger. And it will be interesting to hear a woman's opinion on the matter.
I do not assume that the son of himself all learned with friends on the street. Your opinion and your experience will help him a lot more than the same advice of inexperienced youngsters.
Of course, the important role played by the social life of the young man. He begins to think about what profession to choose it and how to best use their talents. Naturally, in these years formed individual preferences with respect to girls, vocational and further education.
How would parents do not try, they can not always "feel the pulse", controlling the life of his son. As one great philosopher: "Treat your child as a guest - feed, learn and let go."
