We once assumed that Mother knows best what is needed for her child. A view of the kid and his desire - the case tenth. And it's wrong, sometimes even a mother's love and care is too much.
signs of overprotection
When overprotection kid's life is so controlled and regulated by mom (dad, grandmother, etc.), that about any child's right to their opinion it does not go.
In most cases, symptoms are evident overprotective:
- Mom always picks the child should eat and in what sequence. He never offered any choice;
- Mom decides that a child would wear. He can not even choose, for example, the other T-shirt;
- where to go for a walk and what to play, choose only adults. Any suggestions baby rejected immediately (for example, we have already decided where we walk; there's too dangerous; hill is too steep, go to the sandbox);
- the child always helps to do your homework, so he did not even sit for it without mom or dad;
- Mom defines with whom her child must be friends with and who not.
The list goes on. And, most likely, you will find among his friends at least one mummy, took care of their child beyond measure easily. After all, moms statistics giperopekayuschih their children, 40%!
Oddly enough, many young people complain about their tesch-in-law that they are they are not allowed to live their lives. But these young people become parents, their children begin giperopekat and nothing wrong with that do not see.
The consequences of overprotection
When overprotection child morally suppressed. He is accustomed to the idea that he can not, in principle, to take the right decision, even in the simplest situation.
As a result, grow infantile, insecure losers. And if the mother is hoping that such a child will keep it in old age, it is mistaken. As soon as she is old and weakened, then a child, he felt for the first time in the life of their superiority is likely to recover from her for all his failures in life.
Another possible scenario is the care of the child from the family. As soon as there is an opportunity to get out of custody, the child immediately take advantage of it. Methods such care varied. This may be a precocious marriage, and running away from home, and conscious admission into a university in another city, and just moving to another city. In this case, the child is almost always tries to completely interrupt communication with parents. And, again, neither of which support parents in their old age the child can not even dream of.
In any case, children who have grown up under the overprotective, it is very difficult to build their lives, they find it difficult to start a family, to make a career. So kiddies whole life have to live and deal with inferiority and worthlessness, driven into their subconscious loving mummies.
