Is there life after divorce? 12 steps to happiness

According to the observations psychologists, divorce can cause trauma in humans. If time does not ask for help, trauma develop into post-traumatic stress disorder, and there to depression and nightmares, bouts of anxiety and negativity in close communication.

Critical situation in divorce:

• The decision to divorce was a surprise.
• You were given the relationship completely, so without them in your life is nothing left, no friends, no job, no hobbies.
• You are not the first time throws partner.
• You soon tied the knot and live on their own, at first under the care of the parents, then under the protection of a husband.
• You broke up, but continue to spend much time together, for example, because you can not move to various apartments.

In all these cases, the woman needs help. For starters, it can try to find happiness on their own, in so doing, it will help the 12 steps from a psychologist, who returned to faith in themselves and in the lives of many women.

1. Say goodbye to the relationship. You have to reach the bottom, from which will be repelled, to accept the fact that the hopes for a reunion there. The only way you can begin to move forward, freed from the burden of hope.

2. You can help grounding. If you are overwhelmed with emotions and the pain seems unbearable, use this psychological technique: put both feet on the floor, feet flat on the floor, close your eyes and imagine that you are like a tree, grows in the ground. Finish the exercise only when you feel calm.

Focus on how you feel the nature, fix yourself not on emotion but on his body.

3. Help a friend. Deal with emotional pain can help you love your people. In no case did not organize themselves insulation, call those who are willing to listen and support you. But stay away from people who will instill in you the hope that he would return, or blame it for you.

4. weep! Control of emotions is fraught with its splash of this hysteria, which can begin suddenly. This is not an option, cry, let out and heartache, and despair. When the tears flow from my eyes, imagine that along with the water from your body goes all the negative emotions that are experienced.

5. Note hormones! Do not forget that for your emotional state responsible hormones. Tired of being upset?

Allow the body to satiate your serotonin and dopamine through sport, the sun's rays and with a healthy diet. Antidepressants can be taken only on prescription.

6. Away, the former. No contact with her ex-husband, he does not have to take your time after a divorce, better go to a club with friends or sign up for yoga classes.

7. Go to the society. Psychologists believe that social work, sport in the group and any communication is a man advantage. Avoid situations where you even get up from bed too lazy. Be among the people, there you will all be able to dismiss his personal tragedy, and have a good time.

8. Leave behind the self-flagellation. Aggression in a same direction at all harms.

Often, a person comes to the point that begins to blame himself in everything, from the smallest detail to inflate giant problem... What do you get, besides the spoiled mood after such a dialogue with the a? If you are still engaged in self-flagellation, then you need to go back to the first point, and still say goodbye to a relationship has run its course.

9. No vengeance! Do not even think that you will retaliate. From now on, for the sake of the man you even from the couch do not get up.

10. Start building your world. You went together to a workout in the gym near home? Get yourself another habit to replace the treadmill fitness. They drank coffee in the afternoon and called to her husband? Replace coffee and cocoa was walking along the streets of the city, putting face to the sun.

11. Open your heart, even though it hurts. Do you have the experience, the experience painful, but it touches one person. Do not let the former man to determine your future.

Who he is, that because of it you have suffered loneliness?

12. Look for meaning. At the last stage of recovery psychologists teach their patients a rational view of divorce.

Asking them to explain, without the emotions and tears, why it happened. You'd be surprised, but after a few months can make a lot of useful and to work on the bugs (no self-flagellation).

This completes his return to life after divorce.

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