The hardest part of divorce - a joint parenting. You with her ex-husband would have to communicate, whether you like it or not. How to build a good relationship with him, to divorce did not affect the children?
The first thing you have to answer honestly: how you went with your husband? If he was a tyrant, and you ran from it - alas, good relations are not with him. In other cases, to become partners in the education work.
Let go of resentment
When two people decide to get a divorce, they have accumulated mutual resentment. We'll have to forgive her husband and let insults on him. Otherwise, do not get to build a normal relationship.
Do not speak ill of the former
You can even a hundred times to get angry and to hate the man, butspeak ill of him with children - a taboo. For the simple reason that they - half consists of a gene father and love him a priori. When it's bad for your words, they, too, feel bad.
Quality, not quantity
You do not want to "steal" the father of the child and as often as possible to organize meetings? The strategy is quite good, but the best pastime - quality. Let it be once a week or once a month, the main thing that the pope sincerely
He has been involved in education.
Schedule
Create with her ex-husband, a schedule of meetings. Children - crazy conservatives and they love when everything is going according to plan. So they will wait for a meeting with the Pope on a certain day.
claims aside
Do not write or call to her ex-husband claims about his method of education. These things are discussed face to face. Record yourself on their leaflet, you will be surprised, but the next meeting more than half of them will not be relevant.
Do not swear
The most difficult task in such a relationship does not make trouble. Help simple procedure. Think about the ex-husband as a colleague. All questions about the children decide in this way. It is unlikely that you would be yelling at an employee that he - a goat!
Buzz from loneliness
When the children go to their dad, mum, all on tenterhooks and pulls her ex-husband, and children. Learn from enjoying free time, engage them or redo something that "the hand does not reach."
Make friends with a new girl husband
Your relationship is over, but your life - no. And sooner or later you start up a new relationship and your husband. We'll have to talk to his passion. Love does not need to feed her, but «chicken» call - too. Simple respect is enough
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