Words can really hurt a person, even if it looks harmless. we often utter the phrase, without thinking about their impact on the interlocutor. Psychologists have collected the top 5 common phrases that can destroy a relationship.
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I also
Imagine that you're talking about the man, "I love you!" And in response arrives you briefly: "I do." Girlfriend or phrase: "You have a beautiful dress." Answer: "You too." The interviewee does not accept sincerely the answer. He believes that you answer automatically, and does not feel like talking about it. Anything it is not necessary to respond to utter a complete sentence, and specify the details, right?Take me for who I am
Even if you mean that now you do not have the best time in your life and you just need support, the source reads the phrase differently. For him, it means that you like to spit on his opinions and desires, he must come to terms with your weaknesses. According to the study, nearly 90% of respondents have interpreted this phrase in a negative way, although the source to ask for support or to leave him alone with his bad mood.
Otherwise, I would then listened
This phrase is often said in jest: "I gave the money to her favorite dress differently then be listened to half a lifetime. I let him go on a fishing trip, or then be up to the end of his days listening to. " He said ironically, it interlocutor perceived shame. In fact, you are doing something not sincerely, but only to you not manipulated.
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Do not know if my husband will allow (his wife)
You shift responsibilityits mate. S it can flatter some time. But then she suspected something was wrong. Grown men do not ask permission of the other, and advice. But it is convenient to blame the second half, when was the last time you did not want, for example, come to the meeting: "He does not allow me." If you ask advice before some decision in the second half, it is better to say: "I do not know. Check with the husband (wife). Perhaps we already have plans. "I'll not ask about it
Do you know how conflicts flare up after this phrase? When the second half tells us that in order to have something done and waiting for recognition, and in response to hear: "I'll not ask about it." This phrase invalidate all the efforts, shows that you do not cherish the love and attention of the interlocutor. Try to replace it with a "thank you" - you will notice that the conflict will come to naught.
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