Most teens today demonstrate selective hearing. Of course, they hear music, friends, and even the most unintelligible lyrics, but when it comes to responding to requests from parents - is another story. You've tried to shout and threaten to draw attention to themselves?
No wonder: according to a poll conducted by the most common in the difficult moments of parenting a teenager proved point "my child does not hear me." So, we must try to reach him by other methods.
Step 1.
Speak politely and quietly... The fastest you force a teenager to not pay attention to you, if his voice will be clearly heard criticism, orders, notation, condemnation, scream and cry. Just talk to him politely - as you would like to talk to you. And instead of to raise your voice, lower it - speak softer and quieter. Usually this is caught off guard, and a daughter (son) will stop to listen. For good reason the teacher so successfully used this technique.
Step 2.
Be a good listener. Your child growing up just will not be able to become a good listener, if he does not have anyone to learn this. Make sure you can themselves serve as an example the fact that demand from the daughter (son). Show that you listen to her husband, friends, family and, of course, the child himself. Listen to the daughter (son) is two times more than talk.
Step 3.
The easiest way to attract the attention of the child - not to say more, but less. Oddly enough, in this case, you are more likely to be understood and heard. The well-known American educator Mary Budd Rowe discovered that children need more time to think about what they hear before you say something. So if you're asking my daughter (son) or ask a question about something, wait at least three seconds - the child will perceive more information and, quite possibly, will give a normal response.
Step 4.
Pay attention to themselves before they say something. First make sure that my daughter (son) is looking at you (ask you to look at - this technique works even with their husbands). When you look into each other's eyes - a child at your disposal, you can formulate your request or question. If you do it all the time when you need to the attention of the daughter (son), it taught her (him) to listen to you.
Step 5.
Sometimes young people (and not only) is really hard to go switch, especially if they are engaged in what they like. Moreover, the child really can not hear you. Then do warning - Set a time limit: "I need your help in two minutes" or "I want to talk to you a minute, please, distracted." (But for more than five minutes of delay is not worth it - forget it again.)
