This material has not been scheduled, edited site Kolobok.ua. But these days stirred up social networks video, which will impress the parents of schoolchildren of different ages and has caused heated discussions. It deals with a schoolboy 3-A class of school №121 of Krivoy Rog, because of which parents are afraid to let their children to school.
The boy went into this class recently, and his mother believes that it is precisely in this. According to her, her child and stipulate allegedly harassed. But other children and parents a completely different vision of the situation. They complain that the child behaves poorly: spits in the dining room at the plate, pokes in children with pencils, brings to the school syringes, beats, scratches and strangling children arises in the classroom, and even throws in a fight on teacher.
Confirm the improper behavior of the boy, and the parents of children with whom he studied before moved to a new school. They say that the boy behaved very aggressively and terror suffered by his entire class, including the teacher. Once, she even got a heart attack in the hospital.
Unfortunately, such a neighbor's party may be your child, because such a situation may occur in any other school. The main question is how to get out of it without moral loss and damage to health and psyche of children, teachers and parents of students. We will try to consider all possible ways out of this situation.
Transfer to another class. Such a child does not only interferes with the educational process, but also a threat to the psychological well-being of children. And the first thing that comes to mind - to withdraw their child from the epicenter of events. But is it worth doing it? Such a seemingly obvious, way out there are a number of disadvantages.
First, why your child should leave the coordinated association, to part with your friends? Secondly, so that you will teach her son if daughter does not solve problems, but only to escape from them by flight. Finally, where is the guarantee that in the new class will not come the same "terrorist". And then what? Again, change the class, school, or may leave the city? So, your task is not to pick up your child, and to the problem the boy was transferred to a special school for children with mental disabilities or home schooling.
Teach a child to give change.Another popular solution: "They are children, they need to understand themselves and to intervene is not necessary, and that My child did not touch, I teach him to give change, "- says some parents are current situation.
Probably a good idea that your child can stand up for themselves. But here it is not about the usual boyish conflicts. And this way out of the situation even more negative than the previous. Firstly, there are children physically weaker, or those who did not tolerate aggression and stand up for themselves, they can not, how much they this or Say, but psychological trauma on the behavior of your classmates and pressure ( "are you a wimp, you can not give him back ?!") the child is likely to receive.
Second, the constant fights and clarify the relations do not promote a favorable emotional background in the classroom, psychological comfort and the normal flow of the learning process. And as practice shows, "surrender" of these children does not stop, they begin to act in a more aggressive, or do mischief on the sly. And stress in children only increases, because they are always in anticipation of some kind of abomination.
Refer to the guardianship. Any psychologist will tell you that the behavior of children - is the result of education and the projection of the situation in the family. So first of all we must try to find out what is a family school "terrorist". If the dysfunctional family, you can try to prove that parents carry out their duties properly and attract the attention of the guardianship authorities.
To do this, you need to spend some work: to collect testimonies of neighbors that the family, for example, thrives alcoholism and drug addiction, and the child is regularly exposed to violence. Ask them not to be shy at such times cause of the district, which should log the event. With the evidence collected to contact the guardianship authorities at the place of residence. They in turn will decide how to proceed. For example, to limit parental rights and transfer the child to study in a boarding school. In general, as in this case act broadly understood.
Here there is one "but." School is not always "terrorists" from dysfunctional families. His mom and dad can be kind of quite adequate and even very wealthy people, and the child - hard horoshistom. And to prove the failure of the parent in this case would be virtually impossible. And it will not be enough to refer to the guardianship of your words.
Arrange "dark".What arises from the desire to mother, and even more so with the Pope if his child regularly returns from school with bruises or tears? That's right, to protect your child and to deal with the offender. So do we strongly recommend you do not. The maximum that you can afford - to talk with his parents. As far as possible in a calm tone.
Although, you will not be encouraging. Most likely, this conversation came to nothing lead. Or they will behave aggressively protecting their children, or dissolve hands, they say, "Well, what can I do, poryu belt every day, does not work." But if you go to someone else's child with threats or, God forbid, will shake a couple of times over the breast, his mother may well go to the police and write a statement for you. And before that, even beating remove (even if you never touched, beatings on the body of the child's conflict there). And school "terrorist" will immediately become a victim. In the best case, you will have to negotiate amicably with his parents, and at worst you will attract under the Criminal Code of Ukraine.
Refer to the administration of the school and in the district.So, sit back, and watch the antics of a brat is suffering the whole class? In no case. Once your child is told that he or other children in the classroom someone offended, go to the teacher. To clarify the situation, listen to its vision of the problem and its solutions. Talk to other parents, and if they do as well as you are shocked by what is happening, we need to unite. It is not bad to have evidence of inappropriate behavior of the child. The benefit to collect them is not so difficult. Now many children have phones with video cameras (though they will remove the "terrorist" at the time of the riot at the camera a few times).
Write a collective address to the school principal about this content: "We ask you to take measures in respect of the pupil of a certain class, because child interferes with the educational process of our children. " After that, should run the whole mechanism. Director attracts social services (psychologist and teacher), school psychologist (if available) and the class teacher. They should carry out explanatory work with the "terrorist" parents.
If all these measures do not change the situation, the child is displayed on the psycho-medico-pedagogical consultation School (PMPC). It consists of the director, the head teacher, educational psychologist, medical personnel, social workers, teachers, school heads of methodical associations (SHMO). At a consultation addressed the issue of further strategies behavior with a difficult pupil: it can be expelled, determine to a special school or transfer to the home form of training.
If the principal is in no hurry to take action, write a statement to the district education department. Describe the situation, because of which your children can not normally learn, act together, filed a statement complaining about the inaction of the school administration (do not forget to keep a copy for yourself).
Reach to the situation as many people as possible. For example, notify the police and write a collective statement to the head of a children's room the police to work with difficult teenagers describe it happening in your classroom.
Do not be silent, do not let their children to resentment, create as much buzz around this situation is brought to her attention, and then the "terrorist" will be forced to retreat.
