Yesterday so sweet and tender, now your son or daughter become a grave nervous monsters that are irritated when your first word. This is a problem faced by almost all parents.
We offer you a few simple tips to help make Transition your offspringless painful for your psyche and health.
Children always copy the behavior of parents. Aggression may also be implicit, but the aggressive behavior of teenagers shows that the family is not considered neither with the opinion or with the senses, nor the desires of the other. The reasons may be covered in excess of parental care, or, conversely, in the rejection of the child. Or maybe he can not cope with school stress. When a teenager tough situation, a quarrel with a friend or a friend, he can "attack" on the family or peers. And those who got in an environment where aggression - is the norm, and he does not try to be a black sheep.
Refuse to continue the conversation in a raised voice.Sometimes emphatic statement, "I am very angry with you!" Is enough to relieve the tension. And sometimes useful counsel of the wise grandmothers, "the main thing - just do not scream." And really, if you just hold back (as you like: open and close your fingers, count to ten), it is easier not to respond to aggression with aggression teenager. But rudeness is not to be missed: "I hurt when they shout at me."
Do not panic and do not judge, so as not to alienate the child.Try to oppose their own values. In 13-15 years, it is very important recognition of the peer group, and some actions are performed for the sake of recognition or imitation idol. Companies also are different.
If a teenager has come under someone's influence, it will broadcast the idea that before him were not inherent. In addition to the unusual conversations may notice depression, anxiety, change in appetite.
Do not humiliate the teenager - physically or in words.Nothing but protective (often aggressive) reaction, you do not get anywhere. Moreover, he will focus on the thought "how me unfairly treated" and about the behavior of his thinking will be gone. The negative assessment should apply only to the offense (not "you're bad", and "Your act is bad").
Take the emphasis on feelings.Divide his feelings: "I know how it feels," "of course, you're angry," .Nelzya say, "what kind of person!" It is better this way: "You want to smash everything to smithereens? Let's together try to find a way out of this situation. "
Block aggression.You can surprise, laugh or cheer (even chocolate to present). Let the child be discharged physically. Get a dart or a punching bag. Pear not only helps to relieve stress, but also demonstrates the back on an aggressive attack.
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