It is difficult to be confident in themselves and their forces man if you keep saying that you're not smart enough, handsome, talented, and you probably will not work.
Psychologists advise to quickly delete from your life people who undermine your self-esteem. But what to do if it is your own inner voice, your negative thoughts, which do not allow to start a business, change jobs, to be happy in your personal life? There is a way to cope.
Find out the source of negative thoughts. Perhaps it fear to change something, laziness, or an excuse for inaction. For example, you come up with the idea that you do not appreciate the work and it needs to be changed. And then you think, what is now the country's few jobs, many experts more qualified than you are, and look for a job does not make sense.
Why is this happening? You get used to the team and the place of work and are afraid to change it? Afraid that not cope with the new challenges? You are too lazy to look for a new job? Or maybe you and does not want to change it? Admit honestly. There are people who endlessly complain about life, but do not do anything to change it, justifying it by external circumstances. So, in fact, they are satisfied. If we are too tight shoes, we remove them and do not tolerate discomfort endlessly.
Find solutions. Once you become aware of the real reason for their negative thoughts, decide what to do next, it can be:
- I can give (A bad option, but he also has the right to life), and go on as before.
- I can break your goal into tiny tasks and start with the simplest step. For example, when it comes to searching for a new job, write a resume and post it on the site, to undergo a foreign language or advanced vocational training and so on. D.
- I can ask for help. Think of your friends could help you to find work, contact your friends in social networks, and so on. D. The main thing to act, and succeed.
Ask yourself questions. For example, your inner voice whispers to you that you will never be able to arrange his personal life. Ask him why? You have not the slim figure? You is not 20 years old? Did get married, only 20-year-old top model? Around many of the most common women: full, divorced, with children who are happy in your personal life. So why do not you? Just believe that you are worthy of happiness - you have a lot of good qualities. Know that all the restrictions only in your head. Give yourself permission to be happy.
Thank you. Is it all so bad in your life, you have nothing to thank the universe? Think of how much good around you. Feel handy soft fur cat, breathe the fresh air from the open window, look at the bright blue sky above you. Change the focus from the negative thoughts on gratitude.
Breathe. Calm down and get away from negative thoughts, a simple breathing exercise. Cover your eyes and take a smooth breath, count to four, hold the breath for 4 counts, then exhale counting to 4 again and breath holding. Repeat a few times and you will notice that negative thoughts vanished into thin air. Believe in yourself and succeed!
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