Intelligent man - is not only (or even mainly) education, general knowledge, the number of books read and the ability to add in your mind seven-digit number.
This is a man who knows how to prioritize, know that life is really important, and what you can close your eyes, does not spend their energy on the small stuff, respect themselves and the people around him, he admits that his opinion is not always true and right to be wrong for the other people. He understands that the world is diverse and multifaceted, and in addition to black and white, there are many other colors. So, what I never will do really smart person.
They do not allow others to spoil their mood. A smart person knows that if a person has it negative, then it is not necessary to take it myself. Besides, most of what people are doing in relation to us, to us, it just is not relevant.
Do not believe me? Why is the woman in the store, which has come to you on foot, you also yelled? After all, it was not because you are a bad person or something to deserve such treatment. This is due solely to its problems in life that cause her inner tension, and you came to hand. Compassion for her, and go your way. If our mood depends on the surrounding people and circumstances - our happiness is not ours. And smart people know it.
They do not keep the evil. If a smart person forgives and does not keep the evil, he does so not out of altruism but because he knows that the accumulated negativity destroys first of all himself. So he forgives and lets go of the situation. But he, if he was not smart to give the offender a second chance, sinking into his complexes and problems. Smart people learn from the incident to prevent similar situations in the future.
Smart people do not get into a fight, if there is another way out. A smart person would, guided by emotions, get involved in the conflict, of which obviously will not be able to emerge victorious. Besides, he knows that the winners in the conflict does not exist, each party shall bear the loss. Quarrels are only a splash of negative emotions at each other, but not to find a way out of the situation. Therefore, an intelligent person prefers quarrels constructive dialogue.
Intelligent man is content with what he has. Better - the enemy of good, and the ideal is unattainable. The race for them takes a lot of strength and energy, and it may take a lifetime. Absolute perfection does not exist and the pursuit of it can bring to the life of disappointment. A smart person knows: instead of upset about what he does not need to learn to enjoy what he has.
Smart people live in the present moment.It makes no sense to drag a load of past mistakes, if we can make conclusions from them and move on light. It is also foolish to worry about the future, because then, because of what you are now spoil your nerves and can not sleep, with a high probability and is not going to happen. We live in the present and absolutely no reason to spend it on the memories of the past or fear of the future. Much more interesting to live for today, and intelligent man knows it.
Smart people do not dwell on the problems. Our reality - this is what we think and that what emotions those thoughts we produce. If we live in constant thoughts about the poor, fears, aggression and hatred, it is this is our reality. A smart person knows that in order to change the world enough to change their outlook. From the fact that people constantly "brewed" for their problems, they are not resolved, but the energy and health will flow away into the void.
They do not deal with whiners.Of course, when our friends and family there are difficulties in life, we are out to support them. But there are people who experience real pleasure from the fact that constantly complain about life. Intelligent man saves a micro-world and did not intend to wallow in someone else's negativity and spend it on their energy. To neutralize the lover cry in someone else's vest, asked him how he intends to solve their problems, what to do to get out of the situation. Most likely, the offended shut up, because he's not going to change anything in my life, and just wants to complain. In less severe cases the question "sober" whiner and set up on the constructive reflection on the way out.
They are not afraid to say "no."Quite often we do not do what we want and take care of us unnecessary obligations simply because we are afraid to offend the person refused. A smart person knows that he who does not know how to say "no" as a result of living someone else's life, all the while trying to justify the submission of themselves and as a result no longer distinguish between his desires and requirements to it others.
Of course, this list is far from exhaustive, but even such simple skills mastered smart people, you will be surprised how much easier and more enjoyable will be your life.
