All we go witnessing inappropriate behavior of children, both our own and others. With your child, we know and understand how to behave. What if someone else's child is ill? 5 strategies for adults, how to react to bad behavior.
What kind of behavior is unacceptable other people's children? Rude or aggressive. For example, the child has other children, breaks the site, selects the toys, call names, kicking, etc. How to respond to the bad behavior of someone else's child?
You do not like the behavior of someone else's child, but it is not doing anything wrong, then silent. For example, a situation where the mother walks with a baby carriage comes to the playground and asked to be quiet, because the baby sleeps - is unacceptable. Also, you can not claim someone else's child to give way on the swing. Gently ask, yes, but the demand - no. If the child does not violate safety standards, personal boundaries, then it is better to remain silent.
Talk to the parents. If a child behaves aggressively, you should ask the parents to pay attention to the behavior of their child. Psychologists advise to use "I-messages". For example: "I'm worried that your child breaks the bench, because he can hurt themselves and other kids, as well as gives them a bad example." Well say, "Could you intervene?", "We can not cope without you." If you start a parent to blame all the deadly sins of their children, then they will protect him from you and constructive dialogue will not work.
Respect someone else's child. If parents not around or they refuse to get involved in the child's behavior, talk to him yourself. But in any case, do not estimate - the "bad boy", "bad girl." You also can not humiliate someone else's child. Say that his behavior gives you uncomfortable or that it's not made to behave in society. Your task is to firmly establish the border. In case of aggression can be said loudly, "I do not allow to behave with my child." If a child is to continue being aggressive, it is better to leave. This is not a failure. In this way you will show your child that it is not necessary to go into aggression, if not able to negotiate with the offender.
Do not touch other people's children.Grasping hands, the shoulders, shake, take away, and even more so to raise a hand on another man's child can not. It is punishable by law.
Vigorously defend your child in the event of harassment or aggression regularly. If someone else's child regularly offends youIf it deals with bullying, threatening, demeaning, then it is necessary to protect your child. Do not rely on the fact that the conflict will take place or that they will understand. Act decisively. Refer to the parents of the offender. Did not help? Then go to the director of the institution, write a statement to the police. Your task is to protect the child from the abuser. Offenders should be aware that for their actions, they will be responsible, so be sure to stand up for your child.
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