"Divorcee with a trailer" - demolish patterns that impede happiness

Men play a video inciting theme CPRs and their uselessness - is the people speaking on the basis of its own considerations, the bitter experience or fear.

Often it happens that when you bite a dog - there is a fear of dogs, hostility towards them. Even harmless furry balls cause rejection and anxiety. I suppose that these men something like that happened. Perhaps they greatly offended. In fact the same, my dear, hate speech has not brought anyone happiness. Let them hurt, perhaps they will meet their favorite woman, and will heal the wound in a happy loving family (Which I sincerely wish them!), But unequivocal and categorical video will remain and many can knock way. So - do not listen to other people's opinions and do not give anyone or anything affect our self-esteem and our solutions.

video data are based on a number of categorical opinion that Kolobok. UA with a psychologist and a YouTube-blogger lily King Now disassemble:

1) divorcee with a child marriage will not work, because no one wants.

Categorical often deprives us of the opportunity. This phrase is - nothing more than someone's opinion, mostly on their own views and personal desires. This is - somebody personal assessment and not the general rule. Marry a woman with a child or not - often depends on her personal desires and self-esteem, choice men, environment, research activity, the focus of attention, and so on..

I have seen in my practice a variety of fates when incredible young beauty with no divorce, no child can not find a guy and suffer from loneliness. And women who are managing and have two, and three children, married and took on a happy family. If you want to start a family, your children from a previous marriage can not prevent it. Simply, there are men who are comfortable with the presence of your children. On the contrary - there are men who do not fit. Family can be created first. And do not blame them for the second choice. They have every right to it.

2)If a man love you, then it must (!) To love your child as his own.

Again categorical depriving us thinking. Let's still try. You - it's one person, and your child - another. You chose a man, and your child - no. He was not born. He's not his dad. He already has a father, another man. It's his dad had all your common child: education, content, love. And this man is your child does not have to. Wait a minute, but we have the same family? Right. A family. And there must be a relationship, the rights stipulated and agreed. And they must be installed, otherwise the sea injuries can not be avoided. But we should not reproach your second husband's dislike for your child. Let it be their relationship. They should be pleasant, nice, warm, friendly, family. Of course, the question can not talk about child abuse. But it is important to understand that their relationship takes time. Adult man under the power to do much to make friends with the child. And it should allow them to develop friendship and love, abstaining from claims, demands and reproaches.

3) If the man next door, it must provide your child.

Must - it implies an obligation. However, no any legal or moral obligation to your new man is not in front of your child. For one simple reason - it was not his child. And it is a matter of personal desire of the man. There are men to whom such an obligation will not create any tension, and to someone it will be a real duty and a matter of honor. On the contrary - there are men for whom this is unacceptable, an excessive burden and a burden. So the choice of the woman: choose the one who suits you. And it should also stipulate verbalize aloud, words, or planning one man, a woman - another disappointment in the end can not be avoided.

Life - it is, in principle, the consequences of our choices. Therefore, I wish everyone to cling to the adequacy and think with your head.

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