When you ask the mother-to explain what it actually scared? You often hear in response: uncertainty and pain!
But those who are going to give birth for the first time, faced with complete uncertainty, and therefore they fear may acquire unprecedented scale. Big mistake - allow yourself to cultivate it, nurture and strengthen the rumors, horror stories heard from others, and their own fantasies, says the psychologist, blogger and TV expert lily King.
In this article, I, as a psychologist, I will give some recommendations on how to overcome fear and to prepare yourself mentally for childbirth:
1) Look your fear in the eye. Disassemble it into small parts and even scrutinize and every one of them. Clarity kills fear. Uncertainty scares. Clarity gives support, "the earth under their feet." Clarify all stages of childbirth. Learn all about the preparation and process of the professionals. Write an action plan. You'll see, you will be calmer.
2) Good and disciplined training courses gives competence. This will not get lost. After all, if you and your family are well prepared - you team!
3) Tune auto-suggestion: "a face like a cat." One day one of my pregnant friend shared her terrible fear. She did not know what to think, all the time worried. The process of giving birth had seemed terrifying. And then I took her hand and said, "Mary, you give birth to a cat! "And if Mary launched their thoughts to another strontium from anxiety, I will shift to simplicity and light delivery. She watched the cats, read about childbirth in humans and animals, and the first fight shouted to her husband: "Do not be afraid! I have a face like a cat! "And so it happened. Much to our happiness, it came to light a very pretty plump girl! The birth went fast and easy. Masha shared his secret with the doctors, but they only laughed in response.
4) The relationship itself. It must be careful, careful, but in no case do not treat pregnancy as a disease, do not give up the pleasant meetings, communication and entertainment. It is important to understand that you are unable to illness, you are able to Creation of a new life. It's so interesting, such a miracle: the new life inside you!
5) Watch for yourself and your baby, be interested in what you do during this period? How does the baby? What is his character? Take notes, keep a journal. It's a great read for the whole family.
6) Support. Take it. Let the husband to cook for you, let a friend will call you. This is not a weakness, it is a manifestation of care and love! Be sure to close hug, caress on the head, get the habit of spending time together.
7) Humor. During pregnancy, your body changes, we feel different and often not very pleasant. And many are upset, worried because of this: obesity, beauty, condition of hair and nails. One day, one of my pregnant girlfriend to the sarcastic question: "How many kilos she gained and when finally give birth? "I replied:" I'm not fat, I'm fluffy! "
Everyone laughed. This self-irony and the ability to "discourage" the negative gives a lot of strength and energy, you just invulnerable, if you do not care what people think about you.
We wish you to have a "cat" and enjoy motherhood! Remember: You - a co-creator of a miracle - a new life!
