Parents often wonder why my child is behaving with me the worst part? He behaves well in a kindergarten nurse and has no problems with it ...
As a rule, the child behaves the worst is with those with whom he had the most close and trusting relationship. Yes, the child with his mother behaves worse, because it can not afford to control their behavior and emotions, while with others he has learned to control himself and even makes it systematically. Each person, including a child, you need to live their emotions. Instead of hiding, holding them inside. Children in their own way to show feelings and motives of their actions does not always lie on the surface. Experiencing strong emotions, they do not know how to express them - still do not know how. The ability to express emotions accurately, couching them in the correct choice of words, will come with age. And until that happens, your task - to learn to "decode" the messages.
7 signs of the child's love
Attachment of the child / istockphoto.com
It requires your constant presence. At the age of about 6 months, a baby begins very rapidly react to your absence. Crying, until you come after him, and when you come and pick him up calms down and may even smile. More eloquent testimony to the children's love and can not imagine (unless the child itself will not tell you these sacred words).
It draws your attention in any way possible. You are faced with a situation where the child is jealous of you all around. Costs you distracted by a conversation with a friend, a saleswoman in a shop or pay a couple of minutes her own husband, the child starts all ways to show their displeasure - pulling the sleeve, pushes interlocutor starts to cry, and sometimes falls into this tantrum.
Stop thinking about what cranky, crying baby wants to get you out of himself - he just really loves you!
In this case, the child prefers to at least some attention to his absence at all. He better get reprimanded by parents than would tolerate your alienation. This proves his strong attachment to you.
He's trying to hurt you with his words. If you are serious quarrel with her baby, you can hear him very uncomplimentary remarks in his address on "Mama so stupid" to "I hate you." Of course, to hear this from his own offspring, at least offensively. In fact, these words are nothing but the opposite meaning: "You are so important for me that can afflict more than any other people, so I want to hurt you."
He sets the boundaries. A child asks to stop kissing him in public or share a photo with him. Do not rush upset - this is not to say that the child is ashamed of you. On the contrary, it is a sign that he trusts you very much and can safely ask about maintaining their personal space, do not fear to spoil relations with you.
mother-child relationship / istockphoto.com
He boasts of you. Once you hear your child tells a friend whispered in my room some facts about you: that you cool cook a chocolate cake, the fastest roller-skating or easy to guess any word in crossword. And it's great because he is proud of you. In the same way as you are proud of them and brag about its achievements to her friends.
He imitates you. Imitation of adult behavior begins in the first year of life. However, with age it becomes even more elegant and perfect shape. The kid catches all - how you look at warmth of their parents as appetizing eat an apple or angry, talking on the phone - remembers and repeats. Therefore, we must be careful in the manifestation of his emotions, if the house has a small child. You do not want to teach him bad?
He gives you gifts. Bouquet of fallen leaves, a pebble in the form of a heart, a roll of kindergarten, carefully tucked away in a pocket or chocolate derived from her grandmother for good behavior. Your baby is ready to share with you the fact that he holds dear. What more proof do you need of his love?
If you are faced with a phenomenon when your child behaves the worst part is you - rejoice, you We made him the same level of confidence, which is so fashionable to refer to the modern theory of affection. It's really a healthy relationship with my mother.
His current emotions and impressions will determine your relationship for a lifetime. And your task - to keep the crumbs of his affection, give him self-confidence, to give a sense of freedom and safety, to make your intercourse fun and joyful.
And your kids show their love?
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