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The third stage also is inevitable, as the arrival of autumn. He - a natural result of jointly lived minutes, days, years. He - a consequence of the happy moments-long love. frustration stage.
It seems that the feelings are extinguished, the man who once was so good, it is absolutely predictable, and its shortcomings somehow begin to be evident, completely closing the merits of such bright once. The feeling of autumn chill and the impending winter settles in a relationship, is increasingly reminding me of themselves.
The key word of the third stage - "frustration." It seems that all means are tried, all the way, all in vain. Relations have been exhausted, and no future. This is a real test for the pair. After passing it, you will go to a new level of feelings, and your relationships become adults.
The secret of the right of passage of the third stage is to understand that this is not the end but only a complex but surmountable, land of life. Yes, now it is difficult to bear together. Every phrase goes in the conflict, innocent remark seen as a criticism, but to come to a common denominator in the common areas less and less possible to... Be aware of and accept this step as inevitable. Exit - distance.
Allow each other to move away and switch - on the job, a career, a hobby. Shift the focus: earlier in your life relationships occupied a huge place, now leave them exactly as much time as you need for a relatively comfortable communication. Even if it is half an hour a day. But this half-hour should be filled with calm benevolent emotions, no criticism, the teachings or scandals. Agree, if you can not agree, it is better not to start.
Believe me, you will achieve two goals. Enrich personality - after all you will be able to do things that are used to not enough time, and begin to miss each other. Gradually you will begin to appear more and more interesting topics for communication. After all, every one of you will again be another little stranger.
And winter is the relationship will come to you with a sparkling frosty freshness, lovely winter sun and cozy evenings by the fireplace. Learning how to switch and do not depend on the mood of the partner, you will pass smoothly into the fourth stage of the relationship - a stage of high love.
All illusions are gone. You sober estimate of those around you, its strengths and weaknesses, and accept it in its entirety. You feel that it is mutual. Neither the incomparable feeling of safety and confidence in the person who next, settles in your hearts and stains relations special color.
Couples who are at this stage of the relationship, marked. It seems that people understand each other without words, that they are connected by invisible threads. Magnificent veil of respect, pride, love, patience, acceptance of each other envelops them, and it needs no explanation, it is clear at first sight.
Stay fully these fine period partners sooner or later will pass to the next one - power stage. The transition will cause an understanding of what you have learned to overcome all differences that partner betrayed you, and in a couple of you is stronger than each individually. And winter static relationship starts to come to life, turning into a new spring, where you again a single entity. After all together you are so strong that they can do something good for the world, to change it for the better.
Now you are ready to live for a common cause: to create together, to work, to create, to give the world their wisdom. You have risen to the topmost rung of the ladder of your relationship. With the status of "happy in love."
