With the advent of children, not only the daily life of a woman changes, but also the way she communicates with others.
Each of his new achievements for you is the height of evolution. Just think, from two small cells a whole person turned out, he grew inside you, you gave birth to him - and this is just a real person.
He moves his arms and legs, makes sounds - just a miracle, you need to call on television!
We willingly believe. Whether it will still be when he goes and runs. But if your friends have not yet had children, then this topic will most likely not be very interesting for them. To maintain relationships with friends, you need to limit yourself a little in talking about children. Here are a few rules on how not to lose friends after childbirth.
1. Do not give physiological details of childbirth
If you weren’t directly asked about the details of the birth - and you have something to say, it’s better not to tell everything in detail. Before meeting with friends, prepare a story in advance in several sentences; you do not need to develop the topic if you will not be asked questions.2. Taboo stories about feedings, spitting up, diapers, bowel movements
Now this may be the main part of your life, but for people who are "not in the know", all this is at least unpleasant to listen to. And certainly not interesting. Especially it is not necessary to raise the topic at the table.
Whatever happened in the diaper should stay in the diaper.
3. Don't worry if you have "nothing to say"
Perhaps while you were in the hospital and feeding, your friends traveled, went to the movies and developed a career. Do not despair that you "fell out" of the rhythm of life. It's all temporary, you don't become a boring or unsuccessful person.
Believe me, they understand it too, if they are true friends and if you do not put your role as a mother above everything they tell you.4. Start a blog
It doesn't have to be some kind of commercial project, but a blog will help you express the thoughts and feelings that overwhelm you without hanging them on friends who may not understand it all.
So you can reflect, communicate with other mothers, and not bother your friends with children's topics.
5. Expand your horizons
Let's be honest, most moms have time on social networks - which means it can also be spent on keeping abreast of what is happening in the world.
Read news, articles, books, watch TV shows, turn on new music - all this can be done during the day while the baby sleeps, eats or plays on his own.So you can not only keep up a conversation with friends, but also diversify your everyday life, escape from the "Groundhog Day".
6. Don't discount your friends' problems
If friends have turned to you for help, advice, or just decided to share their problems, then you should not say something like: “Is this a problem? Once you give birth, then you will understand what real problems are."
Each person has his own path, and the birth of children will not necessarily be on the path of your friends. However, their problems also matter and are serious to them.
If you want to be taken seriously in the status of a mother on maternity leave and treat your feelings with understanding, then try and themselves to feel sympathy for childless people and their problems, not to judge everything and everyone from the point of view of a mother who "knew the essence being."
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