The third week of September is considered a crisis week. It is during this period that many children begin to say that it is hard for them at school. How can parents help?
"I hate school", "I don't want to go there!" - it is in the third week of September that parents hear these phrases most often. The children have accumulated fatigue, they are not yet used to the new regime. That's all, and it pours out into similar phrases. Also, the child can:
- be capricious
- to confront,
- to be inattentive in the classroom,
- to resist everything.
Child psychologist Svetlana Royce gave recommendations to parents on how they can help their children if it is hard for them at school.
1. It would be great to explain to the children themselves that this week (and part of the next) is difficult. That our body is trying to cope with a new regime and load. And this is how stress manifests itself.
2. After school - at any time - it is important for children to rest. Downcast. Run around. Be yourself. Sometimes even relieve tension in a computer game.
An active play will help relieve stress after school / istockphoto.com
3. It is important to tell children that when our brain encounters new information, it is difficult at first. But with each action, with each "training" with a specific exercise, the "muscle of knowledge" is being pumped up. You can recall how difficult it was in the beginning to ride a bike and roller skates. Now their brains are also exercising. He will definitely "work in".
4. Children of different ages may experience a "regressive phase" - they may begin to speak, "lisping", whining may appear (this is a hidden form of resistance), they can return to those activities, games, cartoons that they loved when they were younger. (They "want to return" to that age when there was more joy, freedom, carelessness). This phase is temporary - if the parents have the strength and time, it would be great to play board games, pillow fights, etc. with the children.)
5. In all classes of the school, pauses are important in lessons and between them - with ruhanks (movement contributes to the production of dopamine, and it is associated not only with a feeling of satisfaction, but also with concentration).
Hug your student often / istockphoto.com
6. It will be very correct - for younger students - to play active games during breaks - to organize their general activity. (They often don't know how to do this themselves. Now is the time for the formation of groups and patterns of relationships in groups).
7. Children have their own sense of time. It seems to them that it will always be so difficult.
And right now, support is important to them - it is important for teachers and parents to celebrate any minimal success. (Dopamine is important to us.) Each day and week should end with: wins of the day (week). All children.
Joy is important to them - may life consist not only of study.
8. When a child answers our question "how are you?"
It is important to clarify: are you very tired? And it seems that it will always be so? Are you sad that you didn't have enough time (energy) for what you wanted? Failed today ???
And only after that move on to the question - what did you like?
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