And it's not about early development classes.
1. Mom teaches discipline
Discipline is not about severity and punishment, but about how to keep up with everything, how to make your day richer and more interesting, and health is better if you adhere to a certain order.
Children still do not have perfect discipline, but the established rules and boundaries, the daily routine make their life easier and their behavior better. For a child of any age, this predictability and certainty is important, because he cannot fully take responsibility for his life and is lost with excessive independence.
2. Mom teaches you to reckon with other people's feelings
Although it is not easy for a mother herself to cope with emotions, it is important to remember that her behavior at such moments is the very personal example for the child, which he will remember better than any words. If something does not go according to plan and your opinions differ from the child, do not look down on his feelings.
Even if it will be difficult for you to agree, to help him look at the situation differently - he will remember the very way in which you solved the problems. And then it's up to you to choose: the child will remember the cry and negativity or patience, diplomacy, love and acceptance of the feelings of another person.
3. Mom teaches love
You should always remember that what was laid in childhood will remain with the child for life. Your attitude and treatment with him today can remain both in the memories and in the subconscious forever. Therefore, it is important to teach the baby love, acceptance and patience by your own example.
Show that you love him always, even if you are angry and in a bad mood. The child reads your emotions and takes them personally: if the mother is angry and upset, it means "she doesn't love anymore", the child feels lonely and unnecessary.
Now try to try on such feelings as if you were only 3-4 years old. If the mother does not show love, then the child is lost. It is very important to show him that your love and care does not go away, regardless of his behavior and your mood.
4. Mom teaches hard work
Moms take on a lot, but an independent and self-sufficient child cannot be raised if everything is done for him. The smallest toddlers love to help their mother around the house - this should be encouraged, not suppressed, even if cleaning turns into making a mess with their help.
But if you constantly suppress children's initiatives in helping, then the child will never learn to do the right thing, and the desire to help around the house will disappear. It is also important to teach that labor is an energy-consuming business, after which fatigue appears, yes, but the pleasure from the work done and the result obtained is much higher.
5. Mom teaches optimism
Try to take the daily troubles easier and more calmly - your child will quickly remember this. A broken cup and spilled soup are not, in a global sense, a disaster at all and are not worth the spent nerves.
Got dirty, got a deuce, lost a toy or phone, made a mess in the house, tore his pants - yes, unpleasant, but do you want your child to experience a lot of negativity and strong worried?
If not, then show how to cope with the problem, talk it over with your child, help to look at the situation from a positive side, calm him down and, most importantly, do not be nervous yourself.
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