How a woman can protect herself in marriage

Some women believe that since they got married in order to be "like a stone wall", then they do not need any protection - the spouse will take care of everything.

But with all due respect to men, you can never say in advance what the relationship and marriage will turn out to be over time. Just because this is life, it is unpredictable in its turns.

And it is always better to "spread straws" in advance and think about your future than to urgently solve the problems of a single mother of three children with the whole world.

So why does a woman need to defend herself in marriage from a legal point of view:

Peace and confidence

You can endlessly trust your husband, but only knowing your rights can bring you psychological and economic peace. And this does not mean that you are "an insidious predator for his money."

It's just that a family is still a joint household, and not just romantic emotions. And everyone should clearly understand their place in this economy and their rights from the point of view of the law.

Control over your life

You got married, but did not delegate responsibility for your life to your spouse. And then you need to clearly understand what is happening around you, where your rights are violated, where you are manipulated, hoping for ignorance of the laws, etc.

How to protect yourself, even if just in case?

1. Keep your documents in order

Basically, all documents are kept at home - and often not in a very orderly way. Your task is to create a folder with all the necessary documents that you may need in an emergency, and store her in a safe place (if possible - outside the home, it can be a safe at work, a safe deposit box, your friends, parents and etc.).

You can create copies of documents in electronic form and store on a USB flash drive. It is important that you have access to the folder at any necessary time, but the husband does not need to know about it.

What should be there: all documents concerning you and your children personally - birth certificates, passports, TIN, documents on the ownership of property, on the opening of accounts, safe deposit boxes, any notarial and financially important documents.

2. Know exactly what you own

It is clear that everything in the family is kind of common. But you must clearly know what you own now and owned before the wedding, in which contracts and legal documents your name appears. A lawyer can help carry out a full check.

Many women really don't even know how many fraudulent documents are going on behind their backs.

3. Recall all possible debts

You may have vouched for your husband's debts or wrote IOUs to someone. All this must be kept under strict control so that sudden debts do not come as a surprise to you if something happens.

4. Check all powers of attorney

Without thinking about the bad, many women first give their husbands a power of attorney to manage the property, and then they find themselves with nothing, because he re-registered all the property - and it is perfectly legal.

You just need to go to a notary to check what powers of attorney your spouse (or other relatives), they, of course, must be notarized and, otherwise, have no legal strength.

5. Be careful about selling and buying property

If, for example, you had your own apartment before marriage, and already married you decided to sell it in order to buy a new one, then the owners of the new apartment, you will already be alone with your husband, and in case of divorce, he can claim property or money equivalent.

Even if this property was purchased with your actual money received from the sale of your property or gifts. Therefore, when buying a new home or car, you should demand from your husband a notarized statement that he agrees that the property is being bought with your funds and has no claims against it.

If your husband really trusts you and his feelings and thoughts are as pure as you think, then he will not even think of claiming the money that appeared in your life before him. But this must be certified with an official document.

6. Maintain a family budget

Of course, you do not need to reproach each other with every penny and turn your pockets inside out. But it is always important to see an objective picture of the financial condition of the family. Record all expenses and incomes in a spreadsheet, keep track of expense categories.

This is true for absolutely everyone, but even more so for those families where husbands proudly call themselves breadwinners and reproach the wife for spending or lack of income.

And if you recount everything a woman does, including childcare, shopping, laundry, cleaning, planning and largely assisting her husband (and the wife - this is a "home secretary" who knows absolutely everything about the house and the needs of the family), then in monetary terms, the female contribution will be no less male.

It is important to remember this, not to devalue your work and not let anyone else do it.

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