Instablogger and mom Yulia Lysenko: Children are our mirror

Julia, you have three children in your family: Elisey, Yesenia and Ulyana. How did you come up with the idea to give children such unusual and unique names?

My motto: If there is a choice between simple and original - I will always choose originality! :) In fact, when 18 years ago I came up with a name for Ulyana, in the city in which we lived at that time, it was not perceived as usual. I remember how a woman at the passport office dissuaded my husband and me from this venture with a name.

It was also important for me to find such a name so that I would not know a person with the same name, so that associations would not arise.

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I wanted the children to be: individual, extraordinary, unique! Since I was born in a family where children of different sexes, I naively thought when I got pregnant the second time that I would have a boy. Even before the moment when the doctor said gender, I had the name Elisha prepared. When we were informed that we had a girl, I thought, because we need a name that is in no way inferior in originality to the first. I confess that the second extraordinary name was a little harder to come up with than the first! (laughs) This is how the name Yesenia appeared. And exactly 7 years later, Elisha was born on Yesenia's birthday! We believe that Elisha acted like a true gentleman - let the lady go ahead, and was born on the same day, waiting for the age when you can safely entrust her with the duties of a nanny!

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From the words of Ulyana it becomes clear that understanding and trust with children prevails in your family. How did you personally manage to build such a level of relationship?

All our three children are planned and conscious, there was no news for us that they will appear with us. We were preparing!

It seems to me that the most important thing a parent can do for his child in the modern world is to love him, help him find and reveal his talents, admire and be proud of his successes and achievements! Yes, there is a huge path of work and effort behind this, but who said it would be easy?

Many parents are used to scolding their children for bad behavior, low grades, or dirty clothes. Do you follow the same discipline or do you have a different view of it?

For me, the word to scold is equal to suppress. Of course, there are moments of upbringing in our family: our parental task is to help children adapt in space, explain what is good and bad, what can entail this or that action! And having charged as much as possible with patience, wait until the realization comes!

I don't scold for things, just because they are just things, we talk for grades - grade is not important for me - knowledge is important! My children have known for a long time that if they do not understand something - you just need to say about it, organize an additional lesson! That's the whole secret of a good grade!

It is also important for the child to know that if the information is not understood in the time allotted for the lesson, this is also normal, everyone has their own time of perception and this does not need to be shy! Pointing to this, many parents themselves drive the child into a situation to keep silent... The result is bad grades, and bad grades are, as a consequence, a loss of interest in learning.

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What is your TOP-5: How should you treat children, and how, on the contrary, shouldn't you?

Apply? Exactly the same as we would like to be treated with you! Children are our mirror, and if you want the best children, start with yourself, the best upbringing is your example! What shouldn't you do? No need to suppress and not believe in it!

And so my TOP-5:

• Respect!
• Talk, share experience.
• Be able to apologize! Yes, adults can be wrong too!
• To support in endeavors if the child did something for the first time: he drew, sang, wrote a poem - it is clear that this is not ideal, but this manifests a desire, and this is not an accident! Therefore, the principle of my children studied in art, music schools, were engaged in the trade union team on dances, studied at the computer academy, went to singing, attended various master classes and achieved success.
• Hear and listen.

Do your younger children, Yesenia and Elisey, have creative inclinations?

Oh yeah! They are all creative! Ulyana, in spite of the fact that she sings and dances beautifully, draws beautifully, sculpts from polymer clay and can easily edit a video, draw a graphic layout in the program and even write a website!

Yesenia is also very talented! From the age of 6 he has been engaged in vocals and professional dancing, takes part in championships and festivals with pleasure. This summer we flew to Phoenix (America) for the Hip Hop World Championship! Only 9 people were selected from Ukraine, and our Yesenia was on their list! She also does acting and loves to shoot funny videos, sculpts slimes and even manages to sell them.

She definitely has cool organizational skills! If she has planned something, then it will definitely be!

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Elisha. They say that children come to this world with a clear understanding of who they want to be and what mission they dream to devote their time to, but... after five years they forget it! I had time and learned everything from him! (laughs) He told me that he is a photographer! Although, our photographer has been going to football for the second year, is engaged in a theater group, by the way, she plays Gina! Has been going to Jia-Jitsu and music for half a year already, and on weekends to an early development school! The idea of ​​becoming a photographer has not left him yet! Once at our house in the hallway he stopped the tutor, who came to study with Yesenia, and said that he wanted to photograph her. When he noticed the embarrassment on his face, he warned that everything would be fine, because he is a photographer! J Many of our “interesting” photos have already been collected on his tablet. Yes, that's right, as long as our photographer takes pictures of everyone on his tablet!

You are an instablogger. Your @ instamama.three account has 320,000 subscribers. How do your children feel about such an unusual hobby for a mom?

Habit works wonders! They are used to it! Now you can see from them that they like it, they are happy to enter the frame, they have become more confident and liberated in front of the camera, they are passionate and interested, very often they offer an idea for plot! “Mom, shoot, shoot, it will be cool for stories!” - I think this phrase was said by each of my family, including even our Dad! Elisha, the youngest blogger, is a favorite of my audience. When he addresses his subscribers, even I sincerely believe that he is there on the other side of the screen, as if he sees someone: with such love and sincerity he communicates with them. And Yesenia, it seems to me, is proud of me, because she signed all her friends, teachers and just all the people she met on her way to me. There is also her merit in the number of subscribers!

After this interview, I think she will come to me with a topic, discuss her PR management services (laughs)

And I consult with Ulyana. This is the person who first approves my content and sometimes checks my text for spelling errors.

Can you call your family perfect?

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Probably, the word "ideal" is not the most appropriate description, because the ideal is different for everyone and what is ideal for one, for another, perhaps, is the exact opposite. I can call my family ideal and harmonious for myself. Once in the distant past, I imagined my family. Beautiful pictures surfaced in my imagination: Dad was playing with the children on a green meadow, the children were laughing, jumping, dancing! The whole space was filled with happiness and goodness. This is exactly what I made to myself! And while everything is going according to plan.

What can you wish or recommend to parents who do not have friendly relations with their children?

Speak! All ingenious is simple! We get to know unfamiliar people through communication: with children as well! Elementary: "how are you?" The ability to listen and being interested in what you hear work wonders!

It's scary when girls of transitional age write to me in a personal message, who share their problems with mine. suggestions to talk to mom, and I understand the scale of what is happening, they answer that their family is not up to them business... Do you understand that they are ready to open up to an unfamiliar person, and not to their mother?! We urgently need to do something about this!! Parents, I am now addressing you! Hear me! Just today, when you return from work, go to the child, hug, kiss and ask: "How are you?" Be sure to sit down and listen. Be closer, because children are the most valuable thing we have! It will take a long time, but your love will remain forever in their hearts and will be passed on like a family jewel from generation to generation ...

I can talk on this topic for a very long time, I really love children! And I'm ready to share my experience!

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