Many of us have a victim syndrome. In the everyday life we are often "actors" playing their roles and wearing "masks". And play the victim in the relationship of people is very common.
A favorite activity of the victim - is to complain about life, on others, on various circumstances. At the same time it tends to shift the responsibility for their lives and other people living in illusions, not realizing that nothing magically does not change if no action is taken.
It is noteworthy that the person with the position of the victim are attracted into your life tyrant. It can tolerate violence, physical and moral. Sometimes the victim herself becomes a tyrant and play "tyrant victim" never ceases. Victims often provoke your partner, or even strangers to the fact that they showed towards her aggression.
Victim herself attracted to the life of the tyrant / istockphoto.com
How to get rid of the victim syndrome
Step number 1. Cease to be a victim
First of all, you need to overcome his immaturity and take responsibility for their lives. Completely. You should realize that everything that happens in your life, it depends entirely on you. If you think otherwise, then it means that you have built a scenario of life where you nothing and you are not subject - the victim.Step number 2. Stop complaining about life and take it for what it is
Take your life and everything that happens in it, such as it is. You can choose the best moments of their lives and make them the main, but also its negative aspects it is not necessary to reject. Everything that happens to us, it is our experience, and part of us. It is foolish to deny themselves and some, though not very nice, the stages of his life.
Step number 3. Awakening
To overcome its state of sacrifice, you need to "wake up" and analyze their lives. If very difficult, try to look at yourself and your life circumstances from the side.
Step number 4. Working with the subconscious
To stop being a victim, you need to work with your subconscious / istockphoto.com
Step number 5. love yourself
It's not as easy as it might seem at first glance. But you have allowed yourself to become a victim only because they do not love yourself, you overcome fears and complexes. You will have to learn to love yourself and all that you have: it will help you to overcome the victim syndrome and become more independent.
You will also be useful to know, we overtighten the others' troubles and problems.
