Tales - an integral part of childhood. Mom reading a bedtime story - a visual symbol of a happy childhood. From generation to generation, in every corner of the world parents read to their children and tell stories.
In fairy tales, concentrated wisdom of the ancestors and the knowledge about the world, about good and evil, about forgiveness, about the difficulties encountered on the way, and how to overcome them. About love and friendship, about the role of women and men about the relationship of parents with children, life values, the problem of choice - all this can be found in fairy tales.
Phenomenon stories attracted the attention of modern specialists in the education of children. And they came to a surprising conclusion. It turns out that fairy tales can be used to adjust the characteristics of mental development in children. This way of reading and telling stories to treat called Fairytale, and child psychologists actively took this technique adopted.
We propose to understand the essence of this interesting and unusual methods and replenish its arsenal of your educational responsibility of parents.
The technique is based on the fact that the use of the existing stories and invent their own therapeutic tales for educational purposes and help to overcome psychological difficulties for children of different characters in different age.
All the stories can be divided into several groups - the content and educational load they carry. Each of the tales is any guide, and its hero is a certain life situation and find a way to get out of it (remember, in a fairy tale good always triumphs over evil).
For example, stories about animals: "Glove", "Tower", "Winter storeroom animals", "goat-Boxthorn", "The Fox and the Crane". Children under 5 years old associate themselves with animals and such tales they are best understood. Of these, the child draws his first experience.
There are terrible stories about witches and other evil spirits. They dipped the child into the world of anxiety and learn to resist the fear, to look for patterns of behavior to leave the terrible situations. To learn how to react to a stimulus in a state of stress, children listen to horror stories and develop mental antidote.
Domestic tales are knowledge about the relationship between family members, ways out of the conflict. They are interesting to children 5-7 years of age and older.
Fairy tales develop imagination and are concentrated knowledge of spiritual wisdom and structure of the world. They are interesting to all children, but it is clear from 5 years of age or older. There are conventionally girly fairy tale - about princesses and queens, and there conditionally boyish, like "Frog Princess", "Humpbacked Horse".
Picking up the story, the hero of which is close to your child, in his example, we can learn to overcome obstacles, to appreciate the true friendship, to avoid conflicts. For example, the fairy tale "The Ugly Duckling" is perfect in order to understand and deal with the problem of insecure child with low self-esteem. Or foster child with reading and discussion.
Thus, the first method skazkoterapii - read with your child stories that are close to the situational issues of concern to the child in Currently, and after reading a detailed discussion of the main character, his actions, his friends and enemies, the purpose of which he I reached. Your goal - to link the situation with a fabulous life and to discuss it in detail with the child to form a stable understanding of the value patterns of behavior.
The second method - the parents themselves to create psychotherapeutic fairy tales for their children, to tell them to discuss the behavior of the characters together to figure out how the characters should act in one way or another situation.
To do this, you need to clearly understand what you want to adjust the psychological problem. The main purpose of invented fairy tale - offer the child an alternative version of the right behavior in a difficult situation, in which your child is at any given time.
Think of the main character, similar to your child, but without direct analogies. "Once there was a girl... She had auburn braids and blue eyes, and her favorite dress was yellow. " The hero must be pretty close and your baby, but it should be different, an outsider, living in a fairy tale. Enter the fairy tale together and get to know its protagonists.
Then think of "suddenly": and then one day the protagonist gets into a difficult situation, faced with a problem. hero of the problem should be similar to the child's problem and putting a fairy tale hero in a problematic situation, you should get him to experience all the anxiety and feelings of the child and colorfully describe them.
After that come up, like a hero seeking a way out and to overcome difficulties. To do this, you need to analyze the tale in a difficult situation from all sides. This can help other heroes tales, which meets the main character in its path, and who respond to his questions. It is very important to figure out how in the process of finding a solution to the difficult situation the protagonist begins to change. And only after it occurred in the changes, and all of the answers hero successfully overcomes the difficulties.
It is important to emphasize that only after the protagonist has changed its misbehavior on the right, he was able to overcome all difficulties. This can be done, for example, by the Chief wizard or sorcerer Wise, who will explain all the hero-all the whole point to the mistakes and show the right way out.
You can invent a fairy tale, fairy tale characters to draw or sculpt entire worlds fabulous clay. And yet - to make dolls favorite characters and arrange the whole presentation.
Such soft "fabulous" education has a huge advantage over edifying conversations. Reaching pedagogical effect, you create a whole world, inhabit his characters, it occurs to you desired Events and actions are your rules and laws, and respect your values, and in the world to your child calmly and easy.
