3 cases in which we overtighten the others' troubles and problems

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Very often, without realizing it, we overtighten on other people's problems, troubles and complexity of life. When this happens and how to stop it doing in the future?

Trying to help another person in a difficult moment, that we hang on the problem - excessive emotions, compassion, a sense of the injustice of the universe, negative thoughts and emotions on this occasion.

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The main law of the universe - a boomerang effect - everyone gets what they deserve, and the good and bad. And it is not for us to decide, it is true that happened or not. And it is not in our power to change the law of the universe and help people realize their own mistakes, if they do not want, as if you did not try to help. Of course, no one says that it is necessary to assist, to be indifferent to the distress of another. You just need to learn to relate to the problems and experiences of other right to themselves to avoid problems and suffering. Why are we over-tighten the problems of others and themselves begin to suffer, and sometimes hurt? In which case this happens and how to further protect yourself from this?

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1. Excessive emotionality and empathy.When someone tells you a sad story, sympathize with a person without attaching excessive emotionality. Remember that nothing in life just happens. Connect the logic, rather than feelings. Support the right words, please, but do not submerge ourselves in these negative feelings and well-being. Avoid excessive desire to experience for everyone and help everyone in the world. It is simply impossible. Each has its own life, which he must live alone and learn to draw conclusions from their own mistakes.

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2. The victim of manipulation.There are people who cry a lot - and that their life is not so, and another, and all the bad, and everything does not add up. The people call them "energy vampires." After talking with a man and the truth, there is a sense of loss of strength, bad mood appears, you feel like a squeezed lemon.

Psychologists explain this by the fact that these people need to speak to someone, "complain to the vest," then they becomes easier, and for this purpose they choose for themselves suitable "sacrifice" to periodically empty out its Problems. Understand that in this case you will learn from the problems of another person not because they want to, but because you are manipulated. What to do if you are chosen as a vest? Read on.

3. Inability to say "no."People with strong will like to pick up weaker, and just hung on them their problems. This often happens at work. The authorities are constantly asking for help, you shouldering more and more responsibilities, relying on your honesty, efficiency and competence? Do not hesitate to raise the issue of monetary incentives, any work must be paid, you learn to appreciate their time and their talents.

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Colleague constantly asks you to do your work for him? Place in the priority of their own interests. Help when you know that a person really need your help, when you have free time, when you do not sacrifice their interests and those of your family. Most importantly - learn to say 'no', know how to appreciate your time and your family, psychological and physical health.

If you are by nature a very kind person, and can not live a day that someone does not help, do not feel sorry for, find something for everyone, be engaged in charity- this is the sphere of activity, where kindness and compassion does not happen a lot.

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