Your baby refuses to play dolls, she is interested in cars and guns? Psychologists explain why parents should not panic.
She does not wear magnificent dresses and long hair, swearing, fighting and climbing trees... Mom grabs the heart and grandmother drink validol. Yes, you may not imagine the life of a little girl, but it does not mean that it is not normal. Let's see what the parents so afraid of?
Girl grow aggressive tomboy
Girl friends only with the boys / istockphoto.com
If a girl all the time watching cartoons about Transformers, playing in the yard, "voynushki" and asks her to buy a gun, it's nothing to worry about. Girls, in fact, no different from boys, they may have a different character and temperament, and sometimes need to throw out the energy. In the modern world it is very blurred gender stereotypes, social roles changed. Now, the girl should not be just a quiet, gentle and economic, it is a full member of society.
World of boys' toys more interesting and more varied, perhaps your little girl is not interested in playing with dolls and daughters and mothers, maybe she wants to reinvent and transform. Do not be afraid and do not forbid her to do so.
She would not be friends with the girls
Many parents worry that girls who from childhood are surrounded by boys, can not find friends among his circle and are far removed from the interests of women.
Children are very individual, they are very quick to learn and they are also rapidly changing interests, not the fact that if Now your daughter asks to buy her a car on the remote control, it is a week not want a doll house and Shimmer Schein.
If a girl likes to be surrounded by boys and play football, it is not scary, on the contrary, she learns to build relationships and communicate with different floors. And in the future, it is a play on the arm as the girl will understand perfectly in men and not to make unnecessary mistakes.
The girl will not like boys
Girl-tomboy / istockphoto.com
Often parents, seeing their daughter plays with cars, afraid that she simply does not like to be a girl, and in the future she may want to change their sex. All these fears were groundless, toys and cartoons are not so affect a child's gender identity. The girl can not become a boy from the fact that she likes cars, tanks and guns, so you can have peace of mind. And remember, if you forbid it, then they themselves support and extend its interest in these toys.
"What will people say?"
Surrounding people often tend to drive all the framework and stereotypes, but be above it. The main thing is the convenience and comfort of your child's psychological, rather than something that will tell Grandma silt neighbor. If everything in the garden snowflakes and your daughter wants to be a pirate, on health. If her desire is beyond the social framework, for example, in the garden you need to wear a dress, and she does not want to find out the reason. Uncomfortable? I do not like? And try to find a solution that will suit both the child and others. Do not listen to what others say, put the interests and desires of her child above.
Everything is temporary, the time will come when your little girl and become feminine, let your hair will become a mother. In the meantime, less experience, it is better to join her and together play a game of pirates or cars!
"I wanted a princess, and she was a robber"
Often parents waiting for baby, invent a perfect picture. Cute little girl with pigtails in pink dress... But often the expectations did not coincide with reality, and instead of a wonderful angel you have around the house a little grimy worn barbarian in a torn T-shirt. It's not scary, you just need to put up and take your child for who he is. Yes, you have an active energetic girl who interested in swords, not teddy bears, but it's not bad.
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