Until we do not got children, much of the behavior of our friends to experience the joy of motherhood and mothers at the playground near the house, we were shocked. "Well, how can you ?!" - we think - I never will not do, when she become a mother. "
But then in our family happy event occurs - and in our apartment for the first time hear a baby crying. And then something comes up to us and the meaning of what he saw and heard before from other moms. So, we bring you a pedagogical error, which seemed to us to mortal sin, as long as we do not got children.
1. To say "we."Remember how every time you trembled when your girlfriend says, "and we were yesterday the first time tasted the apple" or "while we have already teething." Who we thought you, how can you dissolve in a child and lose your individuality? My child, just as I am an individual. I will never say "we" about us.
2. Practice co-sleeping.The baby should sleep separately from their parents, period. The crib had ironed on both sides of bed sheet and mattress coconut. I have a child going to sleep myself... Tomorrow, well, or at least next week, and while on a side cribs perfectly dry diaper.
3. Give the child to play with dangerous and important things. How can you give to the kid year-old TV remote (ibid batteries!), Smartphone (it is harmful to the eyes) or a beautician. Remember how you were indignant when your girlfriend quietly sat and drank tea with you, until the child was busy forbidden things. And now for 15 minutes of respite you are willing to give him even a passport.
4. Feed your baby in a fast-food.No, well, you've seen it? Initially gaining trays of burgers and fries, and then complain that the child is often sick. Ibid trans fats, salt and any harmful additive. No fast food until you finish school! I'm for anything... well, except that one once. At the end of the pair of potato slices nothing happens. And, yes, and ice cream. And who, in general, what's the matter? What a gastronomic snobbery!
5. To raise a child's voice. Well, as you can take it out on the child? He's so small. Any psychologist will tell you that it is sure to affect it in the future. I certainly please be patient and be able to explain everything to him, to find the right words. Well, no, it's just not possible! He's on purpose! Well, I fell. After all, psychologists say that you can not accumulate negative emotions.
6. Allow that forbade the pope. This, generally, is not pedagogically, because the child will grow manipulator will not know the scope and the word "no." Banned because of the ban. Good for some, he forbade, and to me now to listen to whining. Well, once you can only to the pope did not know.
7. Speak phrases that we hated as a child.And where did they just take all these phrases aimed at the child? We speaks abjure that when we have our children, we will not send them all these harmful educational setting, "and if all go jump off the roof," "there is the word "must", "Do what you want is not enough", "and you would never forget", "and who will know", "still a little to argue with me," "I said, so be it," and t. d.
8. Include cartoons to take a break. A good mother does not sit a child from the TV screen, and to be there to take the book, puzzles, creative activities and word games. But sometimes she wants to just have a coffee or silence alone to go to the shower.
9. Bribed with sweets.Well, that's at all in any gate! Buy your child a chocolate egg for the fact that he will sit quietly while you are doing a manicure. Or how do you here this frazochka in the cafe "I'll buy you dessert only after you eat the soup." The controversial method of education, there is simply awful. But why does he work so well ?!
10. Cancel the prohibitions. The child must firmly know the word no, and it is clear to everyone. Parental ban harder than stone. No means no! What do you mean, "I will not" and "last". Well, will not you will not.
