Surely you've witnessed such staging, when my mother asks the child to kiss his grandmother, who came to guests, or even unknown to the child the woman (for example, his girlfriend from work or distant relative) of courtesy?
Kid hesitates, and my mother insistently demands that finally pushes him into the arms of an adult. Defenseless child forced to silently hold back until his grandmother squeezed or kisses someone else's aunt, smelling perfume suffocating ...
Breaking stereotypes
CNN journalist Katia Hetter initiated the movement against the "violent manifestations of love." Kate advises to explain to children that do not allow yourself to touch only because of the fear that you will be called impolite.
"My daughter is not my property. It belongs neither parents nor teachers, nor the coach in the gym. The sooner she learns that she is the owner of the body, the better for her. "
Hetter she told his daughter: "I would like you to hug her grandmother, but I will not force you to do it... I will not suppress the instincts of my child, if he wanders from someone's embrace. my daughter's body belongs to her, not me. "
The basic Instinct
Self-protection of the child - an innate gift, and it is "switched on" at a time when close to the child stranger. Why do not we trust the instincts of our children, who simply can not go against our will and voice his discomfort?
Alternative against rudeness
Can we consider that, by allowing the child is hugging her grandmother, we include a "green light" rudeness? Far from it.
"I would like you to hug her grandmother, but I will not force you to do it ...
Katia Hetter notices: "This does not mean that I encourage her daughter's rudeness. It should be polite to greet people who are familiar and not. I give her the right to choose: to hug or "give five". Sometimes she shakes hands, as it is in adults. "
Psychologists confirm that such an attitude to children allows them to grow up healthy psyche holders and future to avoid all sorts of violence, from bullying their peers, trolling colleagues to abyuznyh relations family.
