If the child is a child's parents are constantly told that it sloven and idiot, sooner or later, the baby starts to believe it.
But first, in the crumbs conflict occurs: because he knows within himself that he was not so bad, he tries to please their parents, and they do not notice it, trying to fit the child into their measurements. From this conflict derives tension, which the child can not cope alone.
In this case, the baby is only two ways: either it will fit under the exorbitant demands of adults, or would resist that generate a lot of conflicts with their parents. If parents do not want to change its educational policy, the child has a nervous breakdown, neurosis, which is growing up with a man suffer in adulthood.
In fact, the causes of the complex relationships between parents and children, and thus the increased nervousness of the child lie in insolvency parents, inability to perform maternal and paternal responsibilities. Modern parents by inertia continue to live their problems without worrying about the fate of their children.
Each of the family members do their own thing, forgetting that the child needs constant love, attention and care, understanding their problems, which he has many. Instead, today's parents try as early as possible to shift the education of their own child to kindergarten and school, engaging in the meantime his own career and his life.
If a baby often sees parents quarrel, then subsequently it takes them as the norm of life, the habit to such relations. Becoming in turn the parent subconsciously realizes inherent in the child view in his own family.
Nobody demands perfection from his parents, all have the right to make mistakes, but many of them could have been avoided. First you need to solve their own problems and relationship problems in the family. A clear understanding of the future requirements ensures the child's mental health.
No less important is an understanding of a sense of proportion. Excess undue attention of parents in a child can generate uncertainty in their own abilities, various complexes, which can also lead to the emergence of neurosis. Adequate attitude to the child's age (the majority of parents can not bear to take the pace of growing their own children; there could be polar opinions: that they believe that the child is too small, it imposed requirements that do not match the child's age) - the complexity that few can overcome quietly. Understanding and respect for private life of the child is not respected by all parents, but it belongs to the list of ethics of the parents.
Many parents perceive the child as his own one more chance to implement their own ambitions and the unrealized potential. How and what children are paying the price of such parents, in my opinion, does not need to talk.
Indeed, listing the reasons for children's neuroses can be long. The main thing to understand that the causes of nervous diseases of children do not lie in the imperfection of the children's nature, and in the education of errors. Some parents leading their children to doctors, inquiring why the child tic, enuresis, stuttering, fears, talk about other causes of the disease.The root cause in them - the failure of parents, lack of love.
