Sleepless nights, colic, stomach, lure, walk and hysteria. Is it possible to relax with a small child? Many young parents and their families this seems to be something of a series of science fiction. And absolutely nothing!
Do not be afraid to talk about their experiences and ask for support. Relaxation comes in the wake of internal work, in which we let go of expectations and illusion, Accept reality and find in it something of value for themselves.
Inflated parenting strips
The first year after the birth parents are adapting to the major changes that have occurred in their lives. It takes a lot of energy! The ability to relax and rest, along with the baby makes life easier, spared her from emotional burnout.
However, often you do drive themselves in a fairly rigid framework, trying to be "the most good parents." And instead, to give yourself the right to error (because we are just learning!), Trying to conform to some unattainable ideal.
- As an example for imitation often taken the life of well-known bloggers, compared with which the real mother, of course, there will always be a loser. Do not get hung up on the experience of someone's selfie.
- We advise to read the book Anna and Anastasia Kuusmaa Izyum "Mom at zero", which tells about the emotional burnout.
- Or look photoproject Jenny Lewis' first day of life, "showing how beautiful can be a woman immediately after birth, even if it does not look perfect.
- Adapting to the role of parents - this time of change, the search-and-error, the time when we get used to a new life. Including this time, it is important to learn how to rest and relax with your child!
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Sleeping with baby
Chronic lack of sleep - one of the main problems of today's parents. Pope advocates that the baby slept separately from the first days. And selfishly takes one and, as it seems, the right decision. But what about the woman and child? Mom does not sleep all night, and shifts the crumbs, he wakes up screaming, do not sleep all. Begin to solve this problem do not have a child, and with himself. Sex to do and can be in another room, and bathroom. Does not work?
The baby is very sensitive to the mother's condition! If the mother is tense, excited or upset, it is difficult to calm down and fall asleep. Imagine that a woman puts the child and wants him to fall asleep quickly, to spend time with her husband.
But the crumb does not sleep, my mother is nervous, then he can not sleep, and so the circle. While the baby will not take the hands of someone calm. And the baby falls asleep instantly! The so-called effect of soothing hands.
When holding a child can use the practice of quiet breathingWhich is very helpful in stressful situations and to ensure a longer and restful sleep your crumbs.
- Lie down with the kid. Start slowly and quietly breathing belly, trying to relax as you exhale.
- Listen to the soft sound of his breathing. Watch for it. Feel the waves of relaxation of the stomach spread out all over the body. Let the feeling of peace will fill it.
- Mentally take the baby in his inner space of relaxation and tranquility. Wrap up, he will fall asleep faster then just go away, leaving about baby roller instead of himself. And spending time with her husband to your health!
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Taking care of yourself - it's not one-off event
It should be part of the life of a child. Many parents tell us how difficult it was to the first baby and how it became easier with the second.
With experience comes the understanding that no household chores are not worth the rest, that the internal condition of the woman is incredibly important. And let the previous generation of broadcast us an example of "sacrificial love" modern mom looking for a balance in the distribution of power between the care of the child and take care of themselves. And it is right!
The more so because there are more places where parents can come with your child and relax. This family cafes, beauty salons, concerts in the format of "mom + dad + kid", fitness classes, yoga and dance. So parents can lead children to an interesting life with the ability to take care of themselves in the company of her baby.
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Relaxation yoga for moms
It is such a special practice yoga and meditation, which effectively helps women find the energy balance between caring for the child and take care of themselves. Age of children in such classes - from one month of age and older.
When my mother practices yoga with crumbs, then gradually she learns to relax in his company.
Usually these classes kids willingly join the relaxation of their mothers, enjoy peace with them.
Practice relaxation - this is the main part of the class. Kids react well to the meditative live music that accompanies the classes, and meditation atmosphere. That just shows how much crumbs behavior is related to the state of mothers. I am convinced that modern mothers except for the information on how to bring up children, vital experience of relaxation! Relax yoga is devoted to this.
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