As a teenager, we had a company, 6 boys and 5 girls. We knew each other from the cradle and often got together. In the warm season, they sang songs with a guitar in the parks, and just chatted. In the cold season, like most children and adolescents of the 90s, we gathered in the hallways.
And there was one guy among us who was always very interested with the girls. More interesting than the guys. He understood us, it was not like with other guys. From childhood he was closer to the female part, our so-called community.
We always thought it was because he was in love with one of the girls. Somehow he always looked at her ambiguously and attention to her was always more than to our other friends. But, she did not reciprocate.
This girl has been dating another guy from our company since she was 12 years old. They were each other's first, in every sense, and they always sat next to each other and cuddled. Our hero (who was very close to the girls) often walked with this couple and "resolved" their conflicts and supported the girl in every possible way, if, for example, they swore. If she cried, he was the first to run to comfort her. Everyone is used to it, even our friend's boyfriend.
Well, do you understand how it looked? We were all sure that he was head over heels in love with her, it's just that it's not mutual.
It took 5 years, and our couple, despite the forecasts, got married. A year later, they had a son, and this guy still hung out with them, helped them with the baby, walked with him and spent all his free time in their family.
For all the years, he never stuck to our friend and did not even hint about any feelings. Her boyfriend was so resigned to finding this dude next to them that his absence caused discomfort. He was like a member of the family. Such is the unconventional family.
And so, when our couple had a discord, at that time their son was already 6 years old, our friend decided to go all out. And, at our next get-together, she decided, so to speak, to "roll up" to this "boy" who is always nearby. By the way, we were all pretty drunk at that time.
According to her, when she began to flirt with him and cuddle up to him, he began to behave strangely. He moved away from her, there was a feeling that he was all disgusted with it. Usually, though, they could sit side by side for hours. But, when it came to closer communication, he was turned away.
A friend jokingly asked: listen, well, you've been bothering me for so many years, let’s reward you properly, my husband and I have already filed for divorce, now it’s possible.
To which he answered her: I was not whipping after you. I love your husband.
To say that she was shocked is to say nothing. The situation happened 15 years ago, and at that time, all these things were very wild, wrong and it was not customary to talk about it.
The next day, everyone behaved as if nothing had happened, they communicated in the same way, but everyone understood that a split had occurred in the company and would not be like before.
Our couple got divorced, and their friend found the strength to confess to everyone in his orientation and, frankly, greatly frightened the male half of our company, especially the already ex-husband of a friend. He has already been told about the feelings that our secretive friend has for him.
Now we rarely communicate, but on social networks I see that our unconventional friend lives with a man. And this man looks so much like our friend's ex-husband that it becomes scary.
So I think, are there many such men who were able to admit to themselves and others in their preferences? After all, our attitude towards such men is still very ambiguous and rather negative or hypocritically positive.
Do you suspect any of your friends are gay? Or maybe someone confessed and now lives with a clear conscience, calmly and happily?
