Sometimes a person feels unhappy in a relationship. He thinks that fatigue, everyday life, problems are to blame. All dreams begin to crumble, everything already seems not as pink and bright as before. As if reality opens, an inevitable reality. Of course, any relationship undergoes this, there are crises, and you need to work on this in order to maintain the union. But sometimes all these "body movements" and transformations are superfluous. Because absolutely nothing changes. Then we can conclude that your relationship is unhappy, and it is worth getting out of it as early as possible.
Let's find out if it's true that you are in an unhappy relationship and are just stuck in it? Here are the signs to help you.
You realize that you just have nothing to talk about
Remember how you used to be? You were constantly talking about something, discussing something, you simply could not get enough of each other. You were never bored, you could share your memories, fears, secrets. And now everything has changed a lot. You suddenly had nothing to talk about, you are like two strangers who have just met and cannot find a common language, common topics. The most you can talk about is your everyday problems and household chores.
You are near, but far from each other
Even when you are in the same room, there is a feeling that you are far from each other. There is no thread that connected you. You hang out on social networks, read something, do something, but just do not pay attention to each other. Everything that you did together before, you now do separately.
You ignore your feelings
You are afraid to tell yourself that you made the wrong choice, that your relationship is unhappy, and that it will only get worse. You drive these thoughts away from yourself, especially when you have children. It seems that your general topics only concern your children. You still hope that everything will change, that everything will be fine. But everything can change only if you both understand the reality of the problem and start working on the relationship. Otherwise, you will always be unhappy.
You are getting further and further apart
You are busy with anything but your relationship. Work, everyday life, friends, problems, children, you are mired in a routine, and you feel that you are simply moving away from each other. Between you there is no more love, passion, you avoid each other, ignore, you just exist, tolerating each other.
You feel like you're out of place
It seems that you are both normal, adequate people, you have built a family, have given birth to children, from the outside you look happy, but all this is simulated, and you understand that. In fact, it seems to you that you are out of place and dream of a different life. It seems to you that you can still become a happy person, but you are afraid to take a step in order to at least change something. You do not see happiness together, at the moment it seems to you that you are in a prison.
You fight constantly.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with fighting. You even need to quarrel in order to solve problems, to come to a compromise, to improve the quality of your life, to improve relationships. But, if you are not looking for solutions to problems, and your quarrels occur only in order to throw out your emotions, then this is very bad.
You are spending more time with friends than together.
Every person needs friends, and there is nothing wrong with meeting them periodically. But if you always choose to rest with friends, instead of being alone, then your relationship will collapse!
Consider maybe you should work on your relationship. If nothing changes, then there is only one way out, to disperse in order to become happy!
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