Man is a social being, communication is of particular importance for him. It is very difficult when there is no opportunity to talk to anyone, there is no one to share your thoughts with, to pour out everything that gnaws at. But there are some topics that you shouldn't talk about at all, even with very close friends, even though you really want to!
There are people who are ready, so to speak, in secret to tell the whole world about everything that happens in their lives. Someone is probably wondering, someone gets bored. So that you, too, do not get into an uncomfortable position with your chatter, I advise you to remove these themes from your stories once and for all.
Your diseases
If your close people are really interested in your health, then there is nothing wrong if you tell about your condition. But various visits to doctors, tests, symptoms - all this people are not very interested in. A person is so arranged that he loves to talk about himself very much, and with age, health problems appear, and he begins to spread on this topic.
For example, when two elderly women are discussing sugar levels or arthritis on a bench in the yard, then most likely they have common problems and they share treatment methods. But your hemorrhoids, cysts, pressure or flux are only your problems, and no one needs to know about them.
Past relationships
In general, not talking about your past relationship will not work. Let's say you are building an alliance with some other person. Sooner or later, you will need to listen or talk about the past. But deliberately waiting for this moment, and talking about pleasant memories is not worth it. This is unpleasant for your partner, it is not necessary for all your friends to know about it. You have started a new life, and the past is in the past.
Own archive
It's about your photos. If no one asks you to show them, then you shouldn't offer them. It's one thing when a person asks you to show pictures from your vacation at sea, or when friends want to see your childhood photos. But, if you are not asked, do not impose! The same goes for your hobbies, favorite videos, etc. By your intrusiveness, you will not endear a person to yourself, but, on the contrary, make him want to run away!
Alien secrets
When you talk about other people's secrets and secrets, you gossip. And it’s very bad to discuss others. It may turn out that what you have said, passing "from hand to hand," will be distorted, and you will eventually be pointed out as the original source! You will be ashamed, won't you? In particular, there is no need to delve into other people's family secrets. Let's say you find out that your friend's husband is cheating on her. What are you going to do? Keep silent or will you open her eyes? It will be better if you remain silent and let the couple deal with the situation on their own.
Stranger children
You can never speak badly about other people's children and criticize them in front of their parents. Children are always good for their mom and dad, and the one who speaks badly about them, even if it is true, becomes enemy number one!
About their achievements
When a person, interrupting everyone around him, only does what he says about his achievements and successes, it is very unpleasant to hear. Firstly, the less people know about your affairs, the better everything will be for you, there will be fewer envious people and ill-wishers. Secondly, your dialogue with a person can develop into a monologue, into the praise of your loved one.
Sometimes it is better to remain silent instead of using useless chatter. There is a pause in your conversation? Don't fill it with these topics!
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