Doctors say that now a woman, even at the age of 25, is old-born. However, this is nothing compared to women who decide to get pregnant after 40. According to gynecologists, in 35% of all cases, a mother or her baby will have health problems. But women still take risks, especially those who planned a child and went to this for a long time.
Another case, when the pregnancy fell like snow on its head, and the woman is not ready to give birth again. She does not have the strength and health to endure all over again. But all the same, the accumulated wisdom leads to the fact that a woman still gives birth to a child, it seems to her the only correct decision. But over time, the realization comes that everything is not so. According to statistics, most women still regret that they decided on a late birth. The most common thing that overtakes them is depression.
And there is also a threat to health, and a real one. Well, compare, stress, sleepless nights, excitement and carrying heavy loads at 20 and at 40. It is quite difficult after 40 to remain a cheerful, cheerful, calm mother of a baby. At this age, good sleep, good nutrition, and calmness are very important for a woman. And all this really will be? When a woman is already on the verge of menopause, the priority is not the child's well-being, but her own.
It is only in their dreams that all babies are pink-cheeked toddlers, but in reality they often and a lot stain diapers, eat badly, cry without stopping and are constantly ill. The psyche after 40 is no longer so flexible, and any changes in life are very difficult to bear.
If a woman does not have psychological and material support, she automatically starts the process of self-destruction. Here is a real example from the life of my neighbor. She decided to have a child when she herself became a grandmother. She believed that "God gave a bunny, and will give a lawn." She dreamed of breathing in this little man's smell again, becoming a mother, irreplaceable, necessary. But in reality, everything turned out to be an incredibly difficult test for her. Pregnancy at 45 was not planned, but Valentina decided that the appearance of a little man would help change her life, as well as improve relations with her husband.
But the birth of her husband's child did not change. He is also a man aged 40+, and was not going to get up from his favorite couch to hunch over for another family member. The older children did not appreciate the mother's strange act either. No one was in a hurry to help her, only condemned her, and began to appear less often in her house.
All relatives gently hinted that Valentina was acting irresponsibly, therefore, she had to solve her problems on her own. Money became tight during pregnancy, but she still did not change her mind, hoping for some kind of miracle. But the miracle, as you already understood, did not happen. And after giving birth, it became even more difficult. The family had enough money exclusively for food, scandals began out of the blue. The husband became aggressive, drank more and more often, although earlier he did not touch the bottle too much.
The older children were generally offended, because Valentina used to help them, sat with her grandchildren, and gave money, but then she stopped doing all this altogether. Who would help her herself. As a result, divorce, loans, the inability to go to work, and even health problems - gastritis, hypertension. The woman began to wake up every day with the thought of why she still went to give birth.
I don't know what will happen next in her life, but you look at her and she seems so helpless. What about the child? He grows up in a tense environment, and all the prevailing circumstances will negatively affect his adult life. Not everyone needs to give birth, unfortunately, especially after 40. And there is no need to hope that the appearance of a baby will somehow change family relations for the better.
Before giving birth to a child at 40-45 years old, and even more later, you need to weigh everything in the most careful way. You need to think ahead. A caring husband is, of course, a very nice bonus. The approval of older children is also important. Good health is another plus. And most importantly, if you decide to have a child at a later age, you need to educate him in love. After all, it is very difficult to correct dislikes.
What do you think about late pregnancy?
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