Unfortunately, no one is immune from treason. And many of us faced it, as a result, faced pain, disappointment, emptiness. Cheating can destroy all illusions about relationships, partner, love, and the future. Treason is the worst betrayal, a hundred times more terrible than lies. This is a lie, and betrayal, and disrespect. This is a vile attitude, this is a spit in the soul, this is a blow that is very difficult for many to cope with.
So, what is next? The first thing that comes to mind is to do something in revenge, but the following things should never be done when you have been cheated on!
Don't change back
This is most likely the first thing that comes to mind - to take revenge on your partner with his own weapon. And to sleep with, say, his close friend, brother, etc. But this will not bring you relief, you will find yourself in a situation in which you would never want to be. Do you know what your ex-partner has to say to that? What did you do right, what cheated on you, because you are a fallen woman. You will not hurt him, he will understand that everything was as it should have been, and he will also be able to control your emotions.
Don't stay in this relationship
The mistake of many women is that they endure and seem to forgive their partner after cheating. All this for the sake of maintaining the relationship. But, even if you seem to get everything right, in your head you will always have a quiet voice whispering that you have been betrayed, and that he is a nonentity. Every time your partner stays late at work, leaves to meet friends, or does not answer the phone, you will think that he is cheating on you again.
Don't let it destroy your self-confidence.
After betrayal, it becomes uncomfortable, many women begin to blame themselves and think, what is wrong with them, that the partner went to another. You are not beautiful enough, smart, successful, sexy... Drive these thoughts out of your head. It’s not you who’s not like that, it’s a goat, period!
Don't look for grades from others
After betrayal, you want to feel beautiful, desired, needed by someone. A woman wants attention, and she starts looking for other men. And in the end it only gets worse! You will get worse! You just need to get over the fact that you were hurt by someone you loved. It will hurt, but you have to endure it.
Don't feel sorry for yourself
You may suffer for several days, and then you have to wipe away your tears and move on. Don't let the incident ruin your life! The cheater is not worthy of this! There is no need to evoke pity in him. Everyone, he passed the stage, stepped over all this, and move on!
Don't involve all other people in this.
Moms, dads, girlfriends, friends. Why would everyone know about this? You don't need everyone to know what you want to forget and experience?
Don't try to ignore everything
It is imperative to find an outpouring of your emotions and feelings, otherwise one fine moment you will be so jolted that you will go all out! Don't suppress your emotions if you don't want more problems in the future.
Don't pretend nothing happened
Unfortunately, not all women part with their partners after infidelity, and just try to pretend that nothing happened. But don't do that. If you decide to keep the relationship, then get ready for a new strategy for the development of your relationship.
Don't forget to take care of yourself
You are in pain, you are suffering, but you have to set aside only a few days for this, and then you have to move on. You may have to force yourself to do it. But you need to take care of yourself, keep meeting friends, work. Don't forget about yourself!
It is not your fault that he changed, so no need to suffer and delve into yourself for the rest of your life! You are the dearest person you have, so just move on! Believe me, the Universe sees everything, and the pain that he caused you will return like a boomerang ...
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