Parents of a child are often the most powerful, smart and bold. In this case, he may be the more coward. Why is that?
Notice that in the early childhood the child was absolutely fearless, and had to catch it everywhere, to drag from the other dogs / people open hatches, shoot from a high ladder, and so on? And now he is afraid of everything new, and even the sound of the door opening? Let's understand why.
1. Already have a negative experience. Bitten by a dog / cat / parrot hurting doctor narugala unfamiliar aunt, offended at the school, I was injured in the fall - all of which can adversely affect the child's readiness for something new. These include cases where the parents themselves narugali or pulled down, "do not go", "do not bother", "stop relaxed "," do not touch ", etc. After all, you will agree, this is often done even without a real need or danger. But the child learns that everything around him is dangerous and can not be all.
2. Fear of upsetting their parents. You pushed the kid, cheer up, instructed, but something went wrong - and in your eyes and the words of disappointment, and even anger all the child understands. You have just said that he could, but he could not. More and I disappoint you. The next time he will try to avoid this situation at all, and will be afraid to do something, if not sure 100% success. And sure, he will be gone.
3. Threats in the case of misconduct. Child for disobedience scared the police, ambulance, dentist, strangers uncles and so on. Where here to move away from mom and dad at least a step?
4. Your insecurity. You are not sure that the child will do something, and constantly talking to him about it. And you do not believe themselves are afraid and do not allow yourself to venture on some things. A child listens, trusts, remembers. And do not, again, not to disappoint you.
What to do to the child became bolder and more confident?
1. Remind your child that you love him any, and it does not affect its possible defeat and failure.
2. Stay calm if your child that something does not work or he is afraid of something. If you declare unconditional love, understanding and acceptance, you should not be annoyed when the baby does not even want to try something new.
3. Tell us about the experience of failure. Explain how it has helped you become stronger, smarter and smarter. Give an example of what you used to be afraid of and how things have changed for the better life when you conquer your fear. And if we did not win - it's time.
4. Explain to your child that the result achieved sometimes at the first attempt, and after many unsuccessful. And it's okay. Only in cartoons superheroes acquire its superpower suddenly and effortlessly. To become a superhero of the real world, you have to work on themselves, as do athletes, scientists, mom and dad and everyone who achieves something.
5. Do not be ashamed of the child if he is afraid of something, especially in front of others. This does not make you a better parent, but violates the most important thing - your trust relationship with the baby.
If your efforts to make the child a little more boldly brought no result and he is still afraid to do something he or interact with other children, just give it time. Similarly, as the baby will not be a lifetime on the handles, with a pacifier, colic and tantrums at the breakfast table, he learn to be more daring and open to the world, if you see in the parents a good example and Adoption.
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