Gadgets have become a real problem for many parents. They complain that the children rather than to live a real life, all your free time spend on the computer screens, tablets and smartphones. Moms and dads are worried about, as a social network influence the evaluation of school, their psycho-emotional development and health. And, if earlier in a child's punishment was not allowed to walk, but now the only lever of pressure began to fear that the apartment will disable Wi-Fi. The attempt send a child to breathe fresh air, instead of pants sit at the computer, threatens to end his discontent, quarrel, or even hysteria.
How to cope with the situation advises clinical psychologist, author of numerous books about parenting Isabelle Filloza. Its simple method will help put an end to the scandals and tantrums at times when the set time expires to use gadgets.
What science says?
You know the feeling when in the midst of a soccer game or during a decoupling favorite TV turn off the electricity? Agree, very unpleasant feeling when you pull pleasure of the state, which occurs even in adults at a television or computer screen. And it might just be unbearable for the child. And that is why, explains Isabelle Filloza.
Watching a movie or during a computer game, as if we were transported to another reality. Light, sound, images change - all this silently plunges us into another world, a state of flux. We are happy and do not want to change anything. Our body produces dopamine, a neurotransmitter, which is designed to deliver us from the pain and stress. When the screen suddenly goes dark, its level drops sharply, which causes negative emotions, and sometimes even the physical sensation of pain in the body. Hormonal decline causes discomfort, even for an adult, and the child may just became hysterical. Therefore, take your child on the computer simply by pressing the button at the scheduled time "off." Is impossible.
How to do it?
When it's time to raise a child because of a computer, do not do it suddenly and dramatically. Before that, you need to enter the space of the child, to share with him what he was doing. To do this, sit down next to the chair, ask those, for example, that kid looks at what level of the game is, the name of his character, and so on. D.
Usually children will gladly respond to that mom or dad interested in his world and pleased to explain what is what. If the child is not distracted and still obsessed with the game, ask him another question. This will be a bridge by which he can come back from the virtual world into the real. With this level of dopamine will decrease gradually and the return will not be so painful and the child will soon be ready to listen to you and respond to your requests. Sometimes children are so happy manifested attention to their interests, they are ready to independently switch off the gadget.
You will be surprised, but it really works. Next time, instead of abruptly pull the child out of the virtual world, try:
1. Sit next to himminute or a little longer and just watch what he looks (does).
2. Ask an innocent question about what is happening on the screen. Most children like parental attention, and they will answer your question.
3. If you manage to achieve dialogue,believe you built a bridge - it will help your child to gradually return from the virtual world into the real hormone without the jump, which means no screaming and scandal.
Take care of yourself and your loved ones!
And do not forget to observeTop 5 Child safety rules on social networks.
