Adolescence - is both one of the most interesting periods in the life of the child and at the same time one of the worst. By "difficult" age former kids need to be prepared. Thanks to several important skills that children will be much easier to adapt to the crisis of adolescence, and pass this important period of his life with relative ease.
Often, overprotection on the part of many parents leads to the fact that a child, at the age of 12-13 years, is completely under their control. Literally parents lead him anywhere on the handle, and the only requirement of a teenager - good study.
Thus, growing a whole generation of "unprepared" to ordinary life situations of children. And because all starts small. And not always a great knowledge of all the subjects so important how some everyday skills up to 12-13 years, the child is required to learn with the help of parents.
Planning for personal time. To wake up the crumbs to go to kindergarten - it is normal and natural. In adolescence, the age of the child himself is able to regulate its rise and fees to the school. This is the moment of responsibility for which the child can answer himself. Of course, the precise regulation of the time is not quite an easy thing, but after passing some stages to its mastery, the child will be more prepared for adult life.
Realize their mistakes.Let your child at least sometimes feel the consequences of their actions. For example, an untimely rise may result in a delay in the school and teacher frustration for him. And it is absolutely not the same effect as when you scold parents. In fact, this will be a valuable lesson from which the child will be able to draw certain conclusions.
The adoption of various decisions on their own. Parents should create their child as much as possible of situations in which it is necessary to take a definite decision. Of course, no mother, no father did not wish the child is nothing wrong, but the street and society is not always Bench kindly take a person into his arms.
In adolescence, it is important to learn to say "no" when something does not feel like doing anything. And if up to 12-13 years for the little man solved all the parents, without the right to choice, and "bad" boys and girls will be able to make decisions for the child. Let as many variations of the crumbs and then he thanks to the visible consequences of these situations, much faster to learn to make the right choices. And note that it is the right choice for him, but not for others.
Help with the housework. The teenager - it's the same equal member of the family, like everyone else, so part of the household duties can safely lie on his shoulders. In addition, he was "unload" a little of his parents, he is also to be prepared for the upcoming life outside the walls of the parent. Simple skills incorporating washing machine, cooking basic dishes and ironing their personal things always come in handy, especially if a child chooses a place of study after school in another city.
Friendly communication in society.This seemingly simple skill sometimes completely absent in some teenagers. At the age of "rebel" is much more difficult to learn the rules of a respectful communication, so this should be done much earlier - from birth. And the most important thing that can help in this just a personal example. No comments and notations will not be able to become a solid foundation. Only an example, on the background of which runs all the crumbs of the process of education. With this skill a teenager will be able to confidently step into life, where it is easy to take as an adult person.
Skill handling money. Usually kids or totally deprived of cash, or too spoiled by them, especially as regards the behavior of the grandparents. To a child during adolescence could as much as possible efficiently manage money, to teach him that to be "in order". To do this, you can give your child a piggy bank and teach to collect money and then allow them to spend on his personal needs.
You can offer their child to spend money to buy a lump sum or gradually valuable purchase. And if a child chooses you think some kind of nonsense, it is a personal choice and it is the first experience of handling money. Allow it to dispose of its own and, perhaps as early as next time it will be more conscious purchase. And so, step by step to adolescence the child will learn to realistically assess its capital and dispose of it as more efficient as possible.
And be sure to ask about why the behavior of adolescents is dependent on what they eat