Today's children are faced with a lot of possibilities - and the same number of prohibitions. How not to grow a poor child who is afraid of everything, and that "everything can not"?
1. See modern cartoons
There is a stereotype that the cartoons are now produced - all about the monsters and do not carry any useful information. Firstly, cartoons still is different. And about the monsters, and not only. And many of them are drawn very high quality. Remember that our parents at one time, too, were shocked by the cartoons, we watched.
But do not "implanting" baby on solid Soviet cartoons. They may have good, but outdated. They are examples of behavior, way of life and the realities of life, which have long been in the past and that the child does not meet around. So that he grew up in the current information environment (and was "in the subject" among peers), it is necessary to allow child watch cartoons and modern teaching him to recognize the quality and second-rate material.
2. Run through the puddles and dirty
You probably are worried that the child does not wet my feet in the rain and did not get sick, and therefore strictly order him to bypass all the pools side. But the puddles - it's so exciting! They need to try to foot, hand to throw stones, to jump in them. Let the little explorer to prove themselves and not to suppress the desire to explore the world. And for dry feet, let him answer rubber boots. As it is necessary to accept the fact that the street children come grubby and he will need a shower and change of clothes.
3. To dream and to have imaginary friends"What are you up?" "What kind of nonsense?" - so parents often react to the manifestation of the child imagination. According to statistics, almost half of children under a certain age have imaginary friends, and psychologists calm: this is normal. The child understands that his imaginary friend, it does not have hallucinations, and he does not see ghosts. Allow your child to dream and to share with you the fruits of their imagination.
4. be weird
Often parents want their child two opposite things at once: to be special and at the same time to be like everyone else. That is, you, baby, of course, must be the most intelligent, beautiful, unique, creative, but please, do not dare to stand out from the crowd. For example it looks like persuasion to braid pigtails / tie ponytails - because "you're a girl," "go the other way," "the teacher would think." Or to put only well together things, although the child wants red pants with stripes, green blouse with polka dots and purple socks with cars.
Allow the child to not play with everyone and do not communicate with their peers imposed, if he does not want. To choose what to wear (you can tell, at least to convince dress for the weather, but not require), which read books. If the child is acting within the safety zone and does not break other people's boundaries, let them does so as it sees fit, making strange, in your opinion, things.
No matter how many psychologists assert that express emotions through tears - this is normal for any age and gender, the at least you can often hear from adults "men do not cry", "and well, let's stop crying," and the like. Allow the child to live a negative emotion by crying, throw it and calm down. From that, the boy will not grow a whiner, but on a psychological problem he will definitely be less. If you are unable to express emotions through crying - children will find another way out: to fight, to break things, to harm himself. And it will agree, is a much bigger problem than tears.
6. Scream, run, scream
For the manifestation of the child's activity in the form of running, screaming, screeching - absolutely normal phenomenon. He has a lot of energy that we have to somehow spend. And it is absurd to force the kid on the street constantly be there, be quiet and not to move once again. So, no home he can not make noise and run or on the street. Such a child at risk to grow closed, dependent parents, incapable of adequate expression of emotions and desires.
Of course, it is necessary to explain to the child that in some places and situations, shouts and running out of place. But it is much better to get it at the right time to hold back from the noise, if you basically have full freedom for energy splash.
Since parents have the full responsibility for the child, it is more convenient to the always and in everything unquestioningly obeyed. However, a child - it's still an individual with his own outlook on life, and with the birth. And it is important not just tell him to do one thing or another, but to learn to negotiate and find compromises, to explain why it is necessary to do something, and of something to give.
Also, the child needs to know that you can express your opinion and to communicate with other adults, such as teachers. You can not be rude and interrupt, but express an opinion - it is normal. And if it does not coincide with teachers - this is also normal. Skill defend its position - one of the most valuable in the life of your child.
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