Sometimes without realizing it, we attract failure to ourselves. The fact is that we utter certain phrases that carry a negative message in themselves.
According to psychologists, many of the phrases we utter program us for failure, and magnetize adversity. They are pronounced automatically by us in order to express emotions and cope with our disappointment. But, speaking them day after day, we greatly harm our soul, moral and physical health.
What phrases destroy us?
"I can not"
Avoid pronouncing this phrase because it limits your confidence. So you fix in your head the readiness to fail, inhibit your potential, and reduce the possibility of finding success. This can also include such phrases as I am useless, I am not at my best, I will not succeed, it is impossible, etc.
"It won't work"
When we assess a situation, for some reason the first thing that comes to mind is its negative outcome. For example, we get stuck in a traffic jam, and we say: “traffic jam again”. When the clouds are gathering, we say: "It will rain soon." These words are certainly true, but they mean that we are giving up. But you can say: "I'll go the other way" or "I'll take an umbrella with me." Just by paraphrasing our thoughts, we stimulate ourselves to get out of the situation and take timely action.
"I'm not as good as ..."
Often, when a person tries to achieve success in life, he begins to compare himself with others. This leads to envy of those who are more attractive, more successful, richer than us: "He has so much money that he does not know where to put it." Try to stimulate yourself with other phrases that will give you confidence and lead you to success. For example, "I am beautiful", "I will achieve financial independence."
"If it hadn't happened to me ..."
It is clear that sometimes life hits us, but we must not constantly remember the past and give up. Nobody knows what would have happened if something had happened to you or had not happened. If you keep yourself in the past, then you yourself will build a wall between yourself and new opportunities. You yourself attract misfortunes and inhibit your development!
"He's a bad man"
Surprisingly, hanging on other labels also ruins you a lot. Do not harbor negative thoughts about toxic people in your head. You deprive yourself of strength, and you need them! In addition, you should not talk badly about the person behind your back, it is better to decide everything with him face to face.
"It's all your fault"
Many of us tend to blame others for our failures: “If you hadn’t said that, I would not have done this”, “It was you who made me”, “It’s because of you I did it,” etc. It is better to find out the relationship with the person, as well as learn to take responsibility for deeds. Understand that no one is forcing you to anything! A person always has a choice!
How to deal with negativity in your head and stop using negative phrases?
- As soon as a negative thought arises in your head, think of something good.
- If you think you're failing, think about success.
- As soon as you start to catch yourself thinking negatively, use positive phrases.
- Instead of: "I cannot" say: "I can."
- Allow yourself to be happy, assert yourself!
- Make a firm decision for yourself that you are leaving negativity behind.
Everything is only in your own hands and in your head! Change your mindset and watch what you say!
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