If you have a number of people who have a negative attitude to you, it's time to let them know that you have to stop all communication with them. In general, you have 3 options: aggressively respond, accept or act wisely. The first option - it is the constant conflicts and quarrels, the second - is also not very good, you do not have to endure the humiliation and insults. The third option - the real way out, give yourself these five promises!
Promise yourself to suppress his own aggression
If you are unable to cope with their emotions, just imagine that all around you a lifeline that helps you "stay afloat." He does not give you agressirovat in any situation - either at home with their families or at work with colleagues, etc.
I promise not to forget what you stand
Put limits in dealing with people, and if someone is bad to you concerns, do not allow to cross the border permissible. Otherwise, it can greatly hurt your self-esteem. Have you noticed how after a meeting with a man who could lie to you and insult you, you feel depressed and overwhelmed? All because this man is a close and can strike where more painful. If someone you are told that you are a loser, not able to anything, etc., do not take the words to heart. Do not react aggressively, know his worth. Understand someone's words do not describe, they characterize the person who said them!
Promise yourself to be confident
Try under all circumstances to remain calm, to speak confidently. When a person begins to talk about you bad, rude and rude to you, do not give in, imagine something good and pleasant, breathe deeply and sizes.
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Promise to stop supporting relationship with the people who make you feel bad
Understand that the person making you feel bad, just do not deserve nor what your respect, and even your attention. There are some people who just artfully create problems and troubles around. They transfer their bad mood on others. Very often these people can be family, friends and colleagues at work. Anyone who treats you badly, will not change. He does not love you, he does not sympathize with you, you do one for him! Would you like to live daily in constant tension and communicate with those who humiliate you? It also destroys your identity. Try to tell that person that you do not let more than that, be warned that your communication comes to an end, and not fooled by his sudden smile and kind words, he's just trying to stop you, and their relationship to you, he is not will change!
I promise myself to calm down and become stronger
Even after the termination of communication with the person who brought into our life a continuous negative, we do not stop thinking about him. On why he was so cruel to us and why he told us such hurtful words. The main thing is not to get depressed, and wisely to heal the wounds in the soul! You will time the time without this person. Try to engage in pleasant things for you: draw, write, walk, travel, communicate with people who give you positive emotions. By the way, the best way to heal their wounds - is communication with other people. Surround yourself with those who truly loves you, respects, does not degrade and does not allow himself offensive words in your address.
Do not let wipe her feet and treat yourself with disrespect!
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